Thank God for easy child's, LOL

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by tawnya, Jul 15, 2010.

  1. tawnya

    tawnya New Member

    Yesterday was easy child's 21st birthday ( I have to update my profile ). She wanted to "go for a drink", so I told her I would take her for ONE. It was mostly curiousity, and she's not that impressed with the bar. I had a beer and she had half of a strawberrry daquiri, and told me it tasted better without the liquor. She liked the whipped cream the best. LOL I hope she keeps it up.

    She is very much the easy child, though, because I told her that most bars give you free soft drinks if you are the designated driver, and she was thrilled. AND she really means it.

    Thank goodness I have her and my little rat terrier to make me smile some days.

  2. toughlovin

    toughlovin Guest

    I feel that way a lot. I have a 15 year old daughter who is the light of my life these days. Sure she is a normal teen wh has her snits and times of distancing herself....but it is normal stuff. We are close though and she talks to me about stuff...and she has a good head on shoulders, makes good choices, is self confident etc. I really enjoy being with her and it really forces me to look at the bigger picture and not always focus on my worry about difficult child.
  3. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    Tawnya, that is a great feeling, isn't it?

    Niether of my girls are big drinkers (although lately I can't be sure with my easy child turned difficult child). Seriously, when difficult child has a wine cooler or something, she never finishes it. I think she got it all out of her system already when she was younger and a true difficult child!! Lol.

    Good for your easy child and happy birthday too!
    Last edited: Jul 16, 2010
  4. Bean

    Bean Member

    Great point. Soak it up, baby. :)
  5. All of my children are "Gifts from God" not in the "problem child" sort of way, but in the fact that God really blessed us with all three.

    All of my Gifts from God are the kind of gifts that "keep giving...."

    (I really hate that phrase "easy child" because I recognize the only perfect righteousness that any of us can have claim to is a total and complete gift from The Only Perfect One)

    For board purposes, our "easy child" consistently gives the gifts of reciprocated love, abounding joy, gratitude, respect and honor. She as proven over and over that she is trustworthy.

    Our difficult child-s have in the seemingly very distant past have given glimmers of joy... fleeting moments of gratitude... and specks of appreciation. Most consistently however they give us the gifts of consciously walking out the decision of forgiveness when feelings of unforgiveness pop up. They give us the gift of being on the extending end of unconditional love through very tough circumstances. They give us the gift of trying to understand their brand of mental illness and how their brains work or perhaps it's best described as fail to work.

    difficult child's have taught us that true-love isn't always a warm fuzzy feeling.

    My "easy child" wanted to celebrate her 21'st by going to a local pub and she wanted her first drink to be "irish coffee". She tasted it and YUK! She didn't want another. She'll cook with wine and enjoys sips off other drinks. Every once in a while she'll enjoy a mixed drink or a glass of wine. She almost never finishes one.

    When difficult child-daughter turned 21 she began drinking early in the day. She arranged to have her closest drinking buddies (she's never been good at keeping "real" friends) meet her for an all-niter at a house she was "dog sitting" at. We warned the homeowners she'd be turning 21, we advised that we didn't think it'd be wise... Home owners looked at us in disbelief... "we TRUST her!" wow. They'd been warned.

    We got a call from difficult child-daughter in a panic... she had woken up and the front door was wide open, and the dog was GONE! "ALCOHOL HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH IT!!!!!!!" Yeah, right.

    That was just one small event (of many) before her major Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) meltdown. In hindsight we learned that Reactive Attachment Disordered individuals have faulty "cause and effect" brain function. She may to-this-day believe her 21st birthday all-day-into-the-night-drinking-"experience" had NOTHING to do with where she ended up the next day.

    It's sad...

    What seems sadder still is that I can't talk about my "easy child"' truly STELLAR life (graduated with HIGHEST honors, nominated valedictorian, employed in a wonderful job, etc, etc, etc...) without bringing up the difficult child-s.

    It appears I can, however, talk about the difficult child-s without bringing up easy child...

    That has to change.
    Last edited: Jul 17, 2010