I posted a few weeks ago when difficult child moved out. I so need to work on me. Everytime anything related difficult child's legal problems comes up I am washed over in a sick feeling for hours. I so wish difficult child realized that he is skating the line between being a convicted felon and being able to have no legal record at all. Yesterday bail bondman called wanting the name and phone number of difficult child's PTI officer. The information was given but I don't know if their was a reason for the call or not. Today the counseling place where he was going to court ordered drug counseling called. I suspect that there is a problem there. The legal notices notices for PTI now say he is assigned to the senior patrol officer where is before it was just a patrol officer. Sigh. At one point difficult child had a prepaid phone but it isn't clear if he still has an active phone or not. He doesn't respond when we text him. Yesterday husband went to the place where difficult child is living and made him call the bail bondsman. Husband came home and said difficult child was in a good mood and they chatted for awhile. husband told me that he told difficult child he is welcome to move back home anytime he wants to. I so wish he wouldn't tell him that. I suspect that if difficult child ever moves back home things will be worse then ever. Lately my mind has been going to the idea of adding a room to our house with a bathroom that has an exit from outside so that if husband insisted we let difficult child live here we could keep him out of the main house easily and if difficult child never moves in we have needed extra space. There is actually a peace having difficult child not live here. We don't have to lock up the rooms before we leave for work, we don't have to worry about who difficult child is letting into our house when we aren't here, we don't have to worry about difficult child exposing his easy child brother to things he shouldn't be. If he didn't have the possibility of felony conviction hanging over him if he messes up on the PTI then I think him moving out would have been the best thing possible for all of us. Hopefully having two calls in two days related to his legal problems doesn't mean bigger problems are brewing. I know these calls are his problems. I wish difficult child wouldn't do things that jeopardize his PTI but then if he was type of person who didn't do things that would jeopardize his PTI then he wouldn't be on PTI in the first place.