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ML
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I have realized some things lately. Not new things really, but things I've always known coming up to the surface.
For a long time I felt badly because I had to give up my dream of a "typical" child. I have a difficult, challenging child who teaches me so much when I am open to receiving the message.
I often allow my fears and anxieties to interfere with the apprecation of these gifts of potential. When manster dressed up in girls clothes up until about a year ago (in 3rd grade) I was so worried because I just didn't want another aspect of his life experience to be "different". Now, I'm realizing that manster has some artistic gifts and that he enjoys designing and creating. He likes to show me how to best wear my clothes, what accessories will go with what outfits, etc. All of his friends are girls. He loves girls and women but he says he likes being a boy who hangs out with girls. He doesn't want to be one (whew). So instead of worrying about manster being a cross dresser when he grew up, when he was just 6-9 I should have tried to stay open to possibilities. As a side note he gets highly embarassed if I bring up the fact that we used to dress up and have plays where he always wanted to be the girl lol. That's just not cool now.
Basically what I am saying is that I want to do a better job of honoring the unique (yes difficult and challenging) spirit of my child and work on accepting the good with the bad.
And I vow to try and stop worrying so much that I miss the good stuff.
Does that make sense?
ML
For a long time I felt badly because I had to give up my dream of a "typical" child. I have a difficult, challenging child who teaches me so much when I am open to receiving the message.
I often allow my fears and anxieties to interfere with the apprecation of these gifts of potential. When manster dressed up in girls clothes up until about a year ago (in 3rd grade) I was so worried because I just didn't want another aspect of his life experience to be "different". Now, I'm realizing that manster has some artistic gifts and that he enjoys designing and creating. He likes to show me how to best wear my clothes, what accessories will go with what outfits, etc. All of his friends are girls. He loves girls and women but he says he likes being a boy who hangs out with girls. He doesn't want to be one (whew). So instead of worrying about manster being a cross dresser when he grew up, when he was just 6-9 I should have tried to stay open to possibilities. As a side note he gets highly embarassed if I bring up the fact that we used to dress up and have plays where he always wanted to be the girl lol. That's just not cool now.
Basically what I am saying is that I want to do a better job of honoring the unique (yes difficult and challenging) spirit of my child and work on accepting the good with the bad.
And I vow to try and stop worrying so much that I miss the good stuff.
Does that make sense?
ML