Sue C
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Melissa recently met a 25-yr-old man (T)at a bar. We weren't too thrilled about that. But he came over to pick her up so they could go watch movies at Melissa's friend's house and he insisted on coming inside to meet us. T is in the National Guard and was in Iraq for 18 months. He's living at home with his parents, working, and going to school part-time. He seemed like a very nice young man and we liked him a lot. When they left, husband and I looked at each other and said practically at the same time, "Now there's someone she needs. Not Brandon."
You see, she still tries to hold on to ex-boyfriend Brandon. They are supposedly friends, but they fight and fight and then when it's convenient for HIM, they get together and she usually spends the night with him. Makes me sick that she lets him use her!
Anyway, back to T. He came along with us recently to watch Melissa drag race (she's won 3 trophies so far!). Again, he seemed like a very nice person, and we enjoyed his company.
Well, Melissa called T last night to see if he wanted to go watch the fireworks. He said no 'cuz he was in a bad mood. She said maybe the fireworks would cheer him up. He then told her that Iraq messed him up and that when he gets in a bad mood, he gets violent and he didn't want to be around her when he got like that. YIKES! (When Melissa told husband and me this, we just gave each other a look 'cuz of Melissa's rages.) She said she suggested a counselor to him (we had to nearly laugh at this 'cuz we've told her plenty of times she needs to see a counselor and will not go), but he said he didn't have the money and he didn't need to tell his problems to anyone when he knew that it was because of being in Iraq.
How the heck is she drawn to this type of person without even knowing this about him??? It's very strange.
Brandon has ADHD and has wide mood swings. P (a friend from high school who she was hanging out with for awhile and we think she was letting him "use" her, too) has depression and low self-esteem. J (former boyfriend who is engaged and she was hanging out with for awhile) has depression and claims he put a gun in his mouth one time and contemplated pulling the trigger. Some of the girls she has for friends have problems (one was anorexic and a cutter, one has a husband who hits her and she stays with him).
She has one girl friend she's been hanging out with a lot lately. She's from middle school and she happened to run into her. Melissa says sometimes she can't take her anymore 'cuz she's always so cheerful.
Misery loves company????
Sue
You see, she still tries to hold on to ex-boyfriend Brandon. They are supposedly friends, but they fight and fight and then when it's convenient for HIM, they get together and she usually spends the night with him. Makes me sick that she lets him use her!
Anyway, back to T. He came along with us recently to watch Melissa drag race (she's won 3 trophies so far!). Again, he seemed like a very nice person, and we enjoyed his company.
Well, Melissa called T last night to see if he wanted to go watch the fireworks. He said no 'cuz he was in a bad mood. She said maybe the fireworks would cheer him up. He then told her that Iraq messed him up and that when he gets in a bad mood, he gets violent and he didn't want to be around her when he got like that. YIKES! (When Melissa told husband and me this, we just gave each other a look 'cuz of Melissa's rages.) She said she suggested a counselor to him (we had to nearly laugh at this 'cuz we've told her plenty of times she needs to see a counselor and will not go), but he said he didn't have the money and he didn't need to tell his problems to anyone when he knew that it was because of being in Iraq.
How the heck is she drawn to this type of person without even knowing this about him??? It's very strange.
Brandon has ADHD and has wide mood swings. P (a friend from high school who she was hanging out with for awhile and we think she was letting him "use" her, too) has depression and low self-esteem. J (former boyfriend who is engaged and she was hanging out with for awhile) has depression and claims he put a gun in his mouth one time and contemplated pulling the trigger. Some of the girls she has for friends have problems (one was anorexic and a cutter, one has a husband who hits her and she stays with him).
She has one girl friend she's been hanging out with a lot lately. She's from middle school and she happened to run into her. Melissa says sometimes she can't take her anymore 'cuz she's always so cheerful.
Misery loves company????
Sue