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Bunny
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So, difficult child had an appointment with the therapist tonight. This is the first one since I sent him the e-mail last week about how angry I was when I felt that difficult child manipulated the session so that he would not have to talk about his behavior at home.
He asked difficult child about how he behaves towards me at home. Did he always speak to me calmly? Did he ever yell at me and speak to me is a disrespectful manner? Does he lie to me? OMG!! difficult child totally went off the wall. He told the therapist that I was lying to get him into trouble and that he ALWAYS speaks to me the way that he should. He refused to cooperate with either the therapist or myself until I admitted that I was lying about his behavior and apologized to him, and then he stormed out of the room. I looked at the therapist and said to him, "Now do you see what I'm talking about?"
I told the therapist that, for the most part, difficult child's behavior HAS improved since starting the medications over the summer. He has been really good during the week, when the days have more structure to them, but that his problems at this point seem to always fall on the weekends, when there is less structure and he is home more, however there are times when he gets angry and he has these angry outbursts. He will calm down and always apologize to me when he's calm, but getting there can take a while.
therapist said that he would call the psychiatrist and ask him for his opinion. At this point we are not sure if this is behavioral (which is what I think) or if there is something else going on with him. therapist likes the idea that the psychiatrist is not overmedicating him, but we're not sure if there is something else that can help him, or if this is just how difficult child deals with things with people that he is comfortable with.
I have to say that in a way I am glad that difficult child behaved the way he did because I think that therapist thought I was exaggerating about his behavior at home. I have been trying to tell him that even though there has been improvements there are still times when difficult child is very explosive, and even though he has not tried to hit me in a very long time, I still do not trust that he won't do it again, or that he won't take him anger out on easy child and hit him instead.
That is where we stand at this point. I am just glad to have finally been understood. I know I'm not crazy.
Pam
He asked difficult child about how he behaves towards me at home. Did he always speak to me calmly? Did he ever yell at me and speak to me is a disrespectful manner? Does he lie to me? OMG!! difficult child totally went off the wall. He told the therapist that I was lying to get him into trouble and that he ALWAYS speaks to me the way that he should. He refused to cooperate with either the therapist or myself until I admitted that I was lying about his behavior and apologized to him, and then he stormed out of the room. I looked at the therapist and said to him, "Now do you see what I'm talking about?"
I told the therapist that, for the most part, difficult child's behavior HAS improved since starting the medications over the summer. He has been really good during the week, when the days have more structure to them, but that his problems at this point seem to always fall on the weekends, when there is less structure and he is home more, however there are times when he gets angry and he has these angry outbursts. He will calm down and always apologize to me when he's calm, but getting there can take a while.
therapist said that he would call the psychiatrist and ask him for his opinion. At this point we are not sure if this is behavioral (which is what I think) or if there is something else going on with him. therapist likes the idea that the psychiatrist is not overmedicating him, but we're not sure if there is something else that can help him, or if this is just how difficult child deals with things with people that he is comfortable with.
I have to say that in a way I am glad that difficult child behaved the way he did because I think that therapist thought I was exaggerating about his behavior at home. I have been trying to tell him that even though there has been improvements there are still times when difficult child is very explosive, and even though he has not tried to hit me in a very long time, I still do not trust that he won't do it again, or that he won't take him anger out on easy child and hit him instead.
That is where we stand at this point. I am just glad to have finally been understood. I know I'm not crazy.
Pam