i was thinking about this today, reading the board. There seems to be common behaviors that "regular" adult children don't share. I don't know if this will generate interest, but thought I'd throw it out there. What do you consider traits of an adult difficult child that make them unable to move on in the same way that most young adults can? I have a few ideas and would love to hear yours. 1/Impulsivity 2/Thinking in the moment for instant gratification, not big picture 3/Not the norm in that they are not excited about growing up or independence and prefer allowing parents to extend their childhood. 4/Or they want to think that they turned eighteen so that even though they still want parents to support them in every way, they no longer need to follow any rules because...they are eighteen. In other words, faulty logic. 5/Have excuses for criminal behavior that is never their fault. 6/GREAT manipulators and givers of guilt that keep us hanging on. 7/abusive to others, either verbally or physically, but, when called in on it, blame their victim. 8/Scary risktaking behavior that they don't want consequences for. 9/It is never their faults. 10/They seem to often lack remorse. lack of contact with family unless in trouble and need or want something (like money). Anyone agree? Disagree? Have something to add? How do you deal with these traits or others that you find you face?