I am tired of two difficult children living under one roof (especially one that makes it difficult for and pushes buttons of the other). easy child/difficult child has really been pushing things with difficult child lately. She knows she can get under his skin and is nothing short of mean with him. I'd use a stronger word than mean if I could think of it. She doesn't ever want him to speak to her. Even when he is trying to be nice she is vicious with him.
I know that she is depressed, I know that she has had it, but right now I am really upset for her. She has seen her therapist and sees her psychiatrist monthly (will now also be seeing therapist at least once a month). therapist says she is very depressed-not suicidal but very depressed.
She isolates herself from everyone at home 5-6 days out of 7. Mostly when she is around she is screaming at us about something.
The other night she pushed difficult child's buttons until he said, "Can I stab her or hit her over the head with my bat?" He even went so far as to get a knife (to which husband calmly told him he would then need to call the police. difficult child put the knife back. He then went and got the bat. I calmly told him if he wanted to keep the bat it better be put away immediately. He put it down right away.
I know what he did was wrong but seriously even a super stable person might have snapped with the way she was being to him. Grrrrr!
difficult child is doing well for difficult child (still driving us nuts, still a major difficult child but at least not violent right now). easy child/difficult child continues to push and push. It's like she enjoys getting him angry.
Nothing we do for consequences works for easy child/difficult child. She just doesn't care about anything. It is so frustrating.
This weekend should be interesting because weeks ago husband asked easy child/difficult child if she wanted to go to a college basketball game in Michigan with the whole family. She did and we are all going this weekend. To put it mildly I'm not looking forward to the car drive with the two of them in the car. Thankfully difficult child will sleep most of the way there and some of the way back. Still if he even looks at her, or even if he is bothering us, or says something he thinks is funny she jumps all over him!!
Thanks for listening and letting me vent! I just want to run away to a tropical island!
I know that she is depressed, I know that she has had it, but right now I am really upset for her. She has seen her therapist and sees her psychiatrist monthly (will now also be seeing therapist at least once a month). therapist says she is very depressed-not suicidal but very depressed.
She isolates herself from everyone at home 5-6 days out of 7. Mostly when she is around she is screaming at us about something.
The other night she pushed difficult child's buttons until he said, "Can I stab her or hit her over the head with my bat?" He even went so far as to get a knife (to which husband calmly told him he would then need to call the police. difficult child put the knife back. He then went and got the bat. I calmly told him if he wanted to keep the bat it better be put away immediately. He put it down right away.
I know what he did was wrong but seriously even a super stable person might have snapped with the way she was being to him. Grrrrr!
difficult child is doing well for difficult child (still driving us nuts, still a major difficult child but at least not violent right now). easy child/difficult child continues to push and push. It's like she enjoys getting him angry.
Nothing we do for consequences works for easy child/difficult child. She just doesn't care about anything. It is so frustrating.
This weekend should be interesting because weeks ago husband asked easy child/difficult child if she wanted to go to a college basketball game in Michigan with the whole family. She did and we are all going this weekend. To put it mildly I'm not looking forward to the car drive with the two of them in the car. Thankfully difficult child will sleep most of the way there and some of the way back. Still if he even looks at her, or even if he is bothering us, or says something he thinks is funny she jumps all over him!!
Thanks for listening and letting me vent! I just want to run away to a tropical island!