I don't know if difficult child 1 and her horrible attitude is due to teenage hormones or if she is starting to destabilize. I know one thing and that is that this year she is hanging out with a bunch of boys and her language has become awful! I believe these new friends of hers are influencing some of her bad behavior, although I know that some of it can be attributed to her typical difficult child behaviors. She was stable for awhile but this year seems to be worse and now she's cussing terribly when she didn't use to. She tells her brother to shut the f**k up, sticks up her middle finger at him, and calls other people names at school. She is saying the F word left and right, although so far she has never said it directly to me but she says it around me ALL the time. She is also using these words around my mom and she is mortified. She has also taken to screaming at me and telling me to shut up when I make simple requests. Just this morning she screamed at me to shut the hell up when I tried to get her out of bed. I had already given her a few extra minutes to lay there after waking her up but she wanted more time. It came down to the last final minute where we absolutely had to leave or I would be late to work. (My supervisor is currently mad at me and I knew she would yell at me if I was late.) I tried to calmly get difficult child out of bed only to have yell at me and tell me, "God you're so annoying." I was beginning to run out of patience but I tried to stay calm. She then yelled at me again and said, "Don't you ever shut the hell UP." Finally she begrudgingly got out of bed and I ended up making it to work on time. These kind of mornings are becoming more and more frequent. She is now making excuses like, "I'm bipolar and I have every right to behave however I want to because I can't help it." She also makes up the excuse that she is a teenager and therefore she is allowed to be rude because "Isn't that how all teenagers are?" What's worse is she never displays this behavior with her dad. I get the absolute worst of it. I can never make her dad aware of her behaviors because he will turn it around on me and say that I'm obviously the bad parent. How do I deal with this? I don't know how to correct these behaviors. Is she a hopeless cause? I can no longer punish her by taking away her cell phone because when I try to grab it she pushes me or hits me. She is bigger and stronger than me. I have no idea what to do with her. Right now I'm just clueless.