gcvmom
Here we go again!
Some of you may recall my post last week about difficult child 1 and his troubles of late with stealing money from his dad and me, taking his brother's money and belongings, not to mention the lying about these incidents when initially confronted (and eventually coming clean about it, showing remorse, and accepting the punishments doled out), as well as taking and secretly wearing some of my undergarments (although that seems to have stopped since his dad caught him, while the other stuff has continued).
So I called the therapist last week and left word with him that I think we need to discuss this. He called back tonight and after hearing my story, he thinks that even with the ADHD, the stealing from family members is NOT normal and he wants to meet with difficult child 1. He asked me some questions about what's going on here at home (are husband and I still fighting and in separate bedrooms... no, we're on the mend and working on our issues), how does difficult child 1 view himself (is he the kid that gets left out, or does he feel like he has to be the role model or is he feeling down on himself lately -- the latter, I think, is more the case because of his first quarter grades).
I told difficult child 1 about the appointment matter-of-factly and said the goal is to help him figure out why he's doing these things and what we can do to help him stop. He seems to be o.k. with this. I just hope it's something simple -- like increasing his Lexapro -- I've got enough complications to deal with right now with difficult child 2 struggling hugely with social issues and homework, my issues with husband and his various compulsive behaviors (did I mention he's blown over $8,000 this year at casinos? And another $2,000 in golf outings? There went the new car I need! :grrr:), and husband going in for another brain MRI in the morning to figure out what's up with the "abnormality" the epileptologist found in his old films. If that man doesn't go back on some kind of medication soon, I just don't know what the future holds for this family... :future:
So I called the therapist last week and left word with him that I think we need to discuss this. He called back tonight and after hearing my story, he thinks that even with the ADHD, the stealing from family members is NOT normal and he wants to meet with difficult child 1. He asked me some questions about what's going on here at home (are husband and I still fighting and in separate bedrooms... no, we're on the mend and working on our issues), how does difficult child 1 view himself (is he the kid that gets left out, or does he feel like he has to be the role model or is he feeling down on himself lately -- the latter, I think, is more the case because of his first quarter grades).
I told difficult child 1 about the appointment matter-of-factly and said the goal is to help him figure out why he's doing these things and what we can do to help him stop. He seems to be o.k. with this. I just hope it's something simple -- like increasing his Lexapro -- I've got enough complications to deal with right now with difficult child 2 struggling hugely with social issues and homework, my issues with husband and his various compulsive behaviors (did I mention he's blown over $8,000 this year at casinos? And another $2,000 in golf outings? There went the new car I need! :grrr:), and husband going in for another brain MRI in the morning to figure out what's up with the "abnormality" the epileptologist found in his old films. If that man doesn't go back on some kind of medication soon, I just don't know what the future holds for this family... :future: