So after 8 months of trying really hard to NOT look for a job, my son is now employed doing landscaping for his girlfriends' father (as we all know, a seasonal low paying job) Basically he only wanted to work in a place where he knew somebody so he would be more comfortable. Crazy right??? His girlfriend has enabled him by supporting him financially through this. Feel sorry for her. So now comes the time when I am going to speak with him regarding paying me back for the $3200 loan. Sigh, can't wait to see how this goes. I have only had minimal contact with him since Christmas, and I feel so much better emotionally. Still feel guilt/pressure to reconnect and give him another chance, but the fight or flight in me and anxiety says " no way your life is so much more peaceful, calm, and happy; run and don't look back."