What a weekend. There were some bright spots but lots of yuck too! The class reunion and visiting with a good friend from San Francisco were great. The visit with my mom is usually stressful but usually she has been fairly good with difficult child. Not this weekend! My grandmother, 94, years old sent difficult child a card with $ for his birthday. I tried to get him to write a thank you card and he totally refused, in fact, difficult child became violent over it. I will write the note myself but I know Grandma won't think it's the same. Fast Forward to this weekend. My mom is obsessing about difficult child writing a note and brought some post cards for him to choose from. Write away he refused and started getting angry. I asked her to drop it since I'd already told her what happened when I tried to have him write one. But no she didn't drop it. She holds the postcards up by a picture of Jesus and says what would Jesus think? He says he didn't care because he didn't believe in him. She says can you say that to Jesus to which he did! Oh if you knew my mom she was so upset. I felt like I was in a movie. The funny part was when Mom went in the other room difficult child made the sign of the cross and said,"Jesus, I'm sorry for lying I really do believe!" difficult child was really angry with her the rest of the visit. I'm sure I'll be getting a letter this week about my parenting Then there was my dad's house. He is good with difficult child-his wife has a more difficult time. She means well but I think she feels if we just parented more traditionally he wouldn't have so many problems-kind of like one style of parenting fits all. She does tend to watch difficult child's every move. There is more to it but that kind of summarizes it. Last night I got a call from her apologizing. I asked for what (I really like to avoid confrontation with family so I don't say much and try to let it roll off my shoulder-we just don't visit too much). She said my dad was really angry at her because he felt he had been too hard on me and difficult child this weekend. I told her there was no need to apologize. She said Dad was saying mean things and saying maybe they should get a divorce. This shocked me because Dad isn't usually like this-he is very calm, go with the flow kind of guy. Apparently he was also out drinking yesterday afternoon which he doesn't usually do. He wouldn't talk to me yesterday when I was on the phone so I could tell him not to worry about it. I'm actually not sure what to do next. I feel like I need to call him today. I don't want our family to cause problems for them! difficult child, other than at my mom's, had a really good weekend-very compliant and no violence! Thanks for listening to this vent-sorry it is so long!