Ok, I'm gonna try to summarize a very complicated situation. 4 years ago my mother in law passed away and my father in law was left as head of a dairy farm. He was in his 80's and simply could not do it without his wife. With 8 kids (includes husband) all Hell broke loose!! Lots of money and lots of greedy people and an aging mean old man in the middle of that mess. Cows were sold, heifers were sold, bank accounts were emptied, numerous battles for power of attorney and other gardianship issues over father in law (Alzeimher). husband stayed clean and refused to take part in that circus. father in law was not dead yet, and it was just plain wrong. 2 of his brothers managed to transfer the deed of the farm to their names as a "gift" from their father. Add to that 3 different Wills (all whispered to the old man by different greedy siblings). 1 year after his passing away... the Estate is down sized to $140,000. Yes might sound like a lot of money, but if the farm (and other Real Estate) were put back into the Estate, we would talk about 1.7 Million dollars... Right now, the other sibling want to make a deal in which husband would get $20,000... The others who have stolen or were "gifted" stuff got at least several hundreds of thousands and up to over 1 million (depending on which family member). Going to court would mean years and at least $20,000 in attorney's fees. And the result would be extremely uncertain. Our attorney said he has never seen such a mess in his entire career (he is no spring chicken). I told husband: don't agree to anything, hope they are gonna fight until death and live your life. We do not have 20 grants to waste... We need to think of us and our 3 kids. husband is so upset right now, I don't like him being on the road. Any words of wisdom to help husband? The farm had always been his dream and his family destroyed it. He admits it himself: what he wants has never existed. The dream of having his family around him and working together has never been anything but just that: a dream, an illusion.