2much2recover
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Knowing when to walk away is wisdom.
Being able to walk away is courage.
Walking away with your head held high is dignity.
Being able to walk away is courage.
Walking away with your head held high is dignity.
These are all brought to us by the political and wealthy sociopaths. I don't see what they do to us, the citizens and this country as any different than what my daughter does to others - they just are able to do it on a grander scale because we have given them the power to destroy with their corruption. A good show to watch and see governmental sociopath archetypes in action is Netflix "House of Cards".War, racism, the celebration of poverty or education priced beyond attaining it or strip mining. (I have been learning about the way they strip mine, these days. They are blasting the tops of the Appalachian mountains off to get at the seams of coal. I cannot believe it. Such an ugliness, and such a stupidity. Who thinks this stuff up?!?)
After you come to accept that it is not your fault that your child is who they are, you do get there as all suffering can only last a certain length of time. The further out you bring yourself from identifying with the disordered person, the less shame there is to feel. As far as friends and family that you feel may bring you to feeling ashamed - stop sharing with them things that make you feel this way. Others may not get it, ever. So then it becomes none of their business unless you allow it by bringing it up. When asked about Difficult Child: FINE and change the subject. You, are never responsible to share what is painful for you with others. What they don't know, they can't judge you on, therefore you have nothing to be ashamed of. Slowly, the walls of shame start to dissolve when we begin to let ourselves off the hook for DNA connection we have no control over.I agree 2much, but I think (at least this is true for me) that we can never walk away with our heads held high. I am so ashamed, sometimes, that these things have happened to me. Or I am so ~ it's like I feel stupid. I don't get the motivation, so I think that what is happening to me could not be true.
True wickedness, or something worse.
It's mind blowing, when you think about how these kinds of people have changed the world. My own personal world, the worlds of my children, the whole, wide world.
War, racism, the celebration of poverty or education priced beyond attaining it or strip mining. (I have been learning about the way they strip mine, these days. They are blasting the tops of the Appalachian mountains off to get at the seams of coal. I cannot believe it. Such an ugliness, and such a stupidity. Who thinks this stuff up?!?)
I know I sound batty.
Playing it safe and going along is not a possibility. When you are involved with these types, there is always, ALWAYS, a game being run under every conversation, every interaction. If you are not disordered yourself, again, I have said this in the past, you are not capable of speaking the same language of the disordered person. That puts you always at risk because you have no idea what lengths the disordered person is willing to go to win the "game".
Insurance doesn't want to cover it because it is hugely expensive to treat and the outcome isn't certain. Treatments for depression, for example, have a fairly good "success" rate, and on average, reasonable time frames. Treatments for personality disorders are very dependent on the degree to which the person wants to change. Change is possible; cure is not. The most damaging aspects can be modified... IF the patient is willing to put in a whole lot of hard work over the long haul.From what I understand a stand alone diagnosis of personality disorder is no longer covered by health insurance for this very reason. At our core of who we are, we can not change, mental illness can be with therapy and medication
Yes years. I've heard somewhere that IF there is any impact, five years isn't unusual.That has to come from them after A LOT of hard work and therapy. Dare I say years?