My other thread disappeared somehow but needed to start a new one anyway since this morning there was more drama with SS. BM took him to school, and says he had a "panic attack" and refused to go in and was having a serious meltdown. He told her that he would not go into the school unless she promised to have the babysitter come and get him. So she let him have his way and the babysitter picked him up so he is now at her house and NOT at school. And there happens to be a meeting this afternoon for an IEP for SS. The school district has already turned her down for special education for him, because despite what she has been telling husband and I, his grades are not bad. He just made the A and B honor roll, and the teachers say his classroom behavior is totally fine other than falling asleep in class and not participating. She told husband and I that he was failing all his classes and was a discipline problem at school, which according to the school is not true at all. The only discipline problem is these before school meltdowns when he gets to the school in the morning. SS is smart, he knows EXACTLY what he is doing. He promised husband and I over the weekend that he would go to school every day the rest of the year and not give BM a hard time about it. So he goes to school Monday and Tuesday and then pulls this crap today. So now BM is calling husband all worked up saying now the school will kick him out and make him go to this court ordered program for unruly kids. Well in my opinion that is what he needs!!! She was told by SS's dr. months ago to file the unruly child charges and she still hasn't done it. I am beyond frustrated this morning. This child has some very serious issues and is probably going to wind up in juvie if she doesn't put him in residential treatment. He is going to hurt someone. husband and I had SS here at our home this past weekend. husband had to work on Saturday and I was here with SS alone. He had the video game turned up very loud and was talking very loud to whoever he was playing the video game with, plus he had music up loud as well. We live in a condo with very thin walls, and went to the bottom of the stairs five times and asked him very nicely to turn it down. He would turn it down and as soon as I got away from the stairs and back into the kitchen, he would turn it right back up. After the fifth time of asking him to keep it down, I went upstairs and very nicely asked him to turn everything down and to please keep his voice down, and he swung around and glared at me and said, "This is just the way I am!!" The look in his eyes was frightening and I was really scared because husband wasn't here and I thought SS was getting ready to go over the edge into a meltdown. As calmly as I could, I explained ONCE again (I have told him this many times before) that because we live in this condo where we have neighbors on both sides, he needs to keep things at a low volume on the weekends he is here. He said nothing else and I went back downstairs thankful that it didn't escalate any further. He kept it turned down for about ten minutes, then the volume went right back up. I never said anything else to him because I was afraid of a more serious confrontation with him and husband was still at work. I do not like being alone with him, it scares me, and husband knows this. But if husband refuses to work Saturdays he could lose his job. husband really needs to stop bringing him here, it is not safe for me, it's not safe for either of us. It is a terrible thing not to feel safe in your own home.