I remember reading somewhere on this board some good suggestions as to what to say when teen starts ranting. I hate to admit that we are at the point where I need to shut these "conversations" down before they even start for my own sanity. If there was any hope that him sharing his pain or problems would be beneficial to him I would absolutely listen.
My son gets in these moods, usually when something doesn't go his way, where he gets angry and seems to need to dump all the ugliness and frustration he feels on me. He will usually start with, I hate people, this world . I would rather die than have to live among such stupid people etc. If I try to dig and understand what has triggered him, he doesn't want to share. He is just in a mode of talk that is extremely upsetting. He gets going and will begin to really verbally attack certain people, etc and sort of nonsensical talk that sounds delusional. He keeps circling back to I am different than everybody. I am unhappy every minute of my life. I want to die. I need to smoke weed. Today I tried to reiterate that he sounds depressed, can get help from professionals, exercise, yoga, etc.
Of course he is in vapor lock at this point and not really looking for any suggestions from me. If I say the wrong thing, he escalates and turns on me. Which is basically every time. Today i asked him to consider for a minute the person he was talking to and think about maybe what I might be feeling when he calling everyone idiots, etc. He said "it doesn't matter, this isn't real, its not even happening, I am not really even here, I am detached" I finally remembered one thing to say from this board and then told him, "I know you will figure it out". And then he walked away. Of course, I feel as if I have been hit by a truck of despair now holding all of his bad thoughts and pain.
I have to shut these conversations down before they start. Please if any of you experienced with this type of behavior have suggestions as to stop the rant, I am eager to hear. Thank you.
My son gets in these moods, usually when something doesn't go his way, where he gets angry and seems to need to dump all the ugliness and frustration he feels on me. He will usually start with, I hate people, this world . I would rather die than have to live among such stupid people etc. If I try to dig and understand what has triggered him, he doesn't want to share. He is just in a mode of talk that is extremely upsetting. He gets going and will begin to really verbally attack certain people, etc and sort of nonsensical talk that sounds delusional. He keeps circling back to I am different than everybody. I am unhappy every minute of my life. I want to die. I need to smoke weed. Today I tried to reiterate that he sounds depressed, can get help from professionals, exercise, yoga, etc.
Of course he is in vapor lock at this point and not really looking for any suggestions from me. If I say the wrong thing, he escalates and turns on me. Which is basically every time. Today i asked him to consider for a minute the person he was talking to and think about maybe what I might be feeling when he calling everyone idiots, etc. He said "it doesn't matter, this isn't real, its not even happening, I am not really even here, I am detached" I finally remembered one thing to say from this board and then told him, "I know you will figure it out". And then he walked away. Of course, I feel as if I have been hit by a truck of despair now holding all of his bad thoughts and pain.
I have to shut these conversations down before they start. Please if any of you experienced with this type of behavior have suggestions as to stop the rant, I am eager to hear. Thank you.