All,
After almost a year, I am back in the forum still looking for guidance and answers as the situation has only gotten worse.
My difficult child who was diagnosed with ODD/Conduct disorder has been going down hill since 9th grade. Used to be bright, football/hockey/basketball player, outgoing. He was in IEP at school but truancy was a problem. At some point last year completely stopped going to school. Was violent at home and no respect or fear and caused lot of damage. Last summer I put him in wilderness program, TBS etc but to cut the story short nothing worked. Had to bring him back prematurely due to various reasons. He went back to his regular school last September but they won't take him as IEP did not work for him and instead he was put in a special school (which to my surprise was extremely good) but dropped out eventually. Sitting at home watching movies and ordering food from outside (my wife is scared and does what he wants and afraid of any confrontation) . Very violent inside the home but not outside. Doing pot (not sure how often), uses tobacco, drinks alcohol if I leave any at home. Not many friends any more. Refusing counseling, psychiatric help however we tried. Several 911 calls and cops have come several times home and now they are all fed up.
Now finally Juvenile officers filed a complaint in the court (with my consent) and awaiting the court date. They are all sympathetic, understand the situation and agree that difficult child needs to be treated more than punished and time is running out before he becomes 18. I am not sure what exactly to expect in the court hearing but I am going to request psychiatric evaluation, physical exam, substance rehabilitation, anger management and finally a out of home school. Not sure whether all these can happen but praying for this. Clock is ticking.
If anybody can guide me how this thing will work out when we go to the court and what we need to be prepared for that will be highly appreciated. While we are completely fed up with our difficult child and afraid to be home with him, we also do not want to punish him but give him proper treatment. My insurance may cover the treatment. I do not want him to be forcefully put in a home where he is treated harshly which may worsen his condition
Thanks as always for any of your expert guidance/experience sharing.
Regards
After almost a year, I am back in the forum still looking for guidance and answers as the situation has only gotten worse.
My difficult child who was diagnosed with ODD/Conduct disorder has been going down hill since 9th grade. Used to be bright, football/hockey/basketball player, outgoing. He was in IEP at school but truancy was a problem. At some point last year completely stopped going to school. Was violent at home and no respect or fear and caused lot of damage. Last summer I put him in wilderness program, TBS etc but to cut the story short nothing worked. Had to bring him back prematurely due to various reasons. He went back to his regular school last September but they won't take him as IEP did not work for him and instead he was put in a special school (which to my surprise was extremely good) but dropped out eventually. Sitting at home watching movies and ordering food from outside (my wife is scared and does what he wants and afraid of any confrontation) . Very violent inside the home but not outside. Doing pot (not sure how often), uses tobacco, drinks alcohol if I leave any at home. Not many friends any more. Refusing counseling, psychiatric help however we tried. Several 911 calls and cops have come several times home and now they are all fed up.
Now finally Juvenile officers filed a complaint in the court (with my consent) and awaiting the court date. They are all sympathetic, understand the situation and agree that difficult child needs to be treated more than punished and time is running out before he becomes 18. I am not sure what exactly to expect in the court hearing but I am going to request psychiatric evaluation, physical exam, substance rehabilitation, anger management and finally a out of home school. Not sure whether all these can happen but praying for this. Clock is ticking.
If anybody can guide me how this thing will work out when we go to the court and what we need to be prepared for that will be highly appreciated. While we are completely fed up with our difficult child and afraid to be home with him, we also do not want to punish him but give him proper treatment. My insurance may cover the treatment. I do not want him to be forcefully put in a home where he is treated harshly which may worsen his condition
Thanks as always for any of your expert guidance/experience sharing.
Regards