I wish we could get the kids to bed earlier. Unfortunately by the time I arrived on the scene, 9 PM was set... It's now supposed to be 10 for Onyxx, 9 for Jett, but - well yeah. I tell him to start getting ready at 8:45 - shower is at 8:30, except on Tuesdays and Thursdays when it is whenever he gets home from BM's - and I get arguments, etc. Tuck in always ends up at 9:15 or later. Usually later. Since it is summer I gave up - as long as they do not keep ME awake, husband can handle it. ...And I'd be happy if they were just IN their bedrooms.
As for normal - yeah. Onyxx starts arguing about something and my blood pressure goes up, because of past events - fight or flight. I'm actually USED to this! because she throws a hissy and usually if it escalates there's violence involved. And I'm just WAITING for the other shoe to drop.
Jett told husband that he doesn't understand why I'm always mad at him. Well, I'm NOT - and husband sat him down and they remembered a lot of times I'm NOT mad - and then husband explained that Jett doesn't do his job (chores - the list is simple - dishes and cat litter, alternating days, Monday through Thursday, room cleaning, other stuff as asked) and gives excuses why, or watches TV (whatever others are watching) or plays. Sasses back. This would be "normal", but it's gotten a lot worse lately, and husband is tired of the house being messy because Jett cannot be bothered.
Told both kids while camping that I'm not reminding about chores any more. If they cannot be bothered to do their stuff without nagging, I cannot be bothered to do anything for them. No rides places, no sleepovers, no money, no nothing.
If this is "normal", I'm not surprised many animals eat their young.