So lately difficult child has been doing better. Not suspended from school yet, minimal melt downs, and is even nice a lot of the time. He has been walking to school with a neighbor boy, invited the boy to his birthday party. Seems like a very nice boy, a good friend for difficult child. Apparently there has been some mischief. From my perspective not too big of a deal, but the other boys step mom is sure intense. Needs to be dealt with, but not the end of the world, at least from a difficult child perspective. difficult child has given the boy a couple toys (one was a christmas present he got into). Now this does not in any way make me happy, but I am not incensed by it. difficult child went to go pick up the other boy before school, went too early (about 8am vs 8:15am) and stood in the middle of the street yelling for the other boy. Again, I am not too happy, but not flipping my lid. Now we have 2 stories. difficult child version is that he showed the other boy his pocket knife before school, hid it under a log in the front yard. The other boy came back at some point and took it. Other boys version is that they got the pocket knife almost to school, difficult child hid it somewhere under a log, and other boy took it later. Now this one jostles my lid, but I am not flipping it. At least difficult child now realizes that it is not supposed to go to school, now we have to keep it home( and get husband to quit giving them to him--long story and yes it is wrong. We all hunt and fish and camp. They are fine out camping but not at home). Now difficult child is in trouble. He has lost electronic games for 3 days, and can only watch TV in the living room. He will be deliered to and from school for a week or longer. He hates it when we take him to school. He was wrong in some ways, but to me this is just normal kid stuff. I think I got so used to suspensions, threatened expulsion, and all that fun difficult child carp that this easy child stuff just seems like nothing. difficult child admitted to all of it, admitted to taking the christmas present, but what amazes me is he took his present to give to his friend. He did not keep it. He bought another one after christmas for himself so he could have one too. ( I thought I had lost the present in our shed). I had a hard time dealing with the toy gifting issue. I worked so hard to teach him to share, and I know he gives them away so that he can have a friend. I feel more sad than anything as he feels he has to "buy" friends.