This grates on my nerves so badly and I don't know how to handle it. difficult child brought home a note from his teacher that said that he claimed that other children were in his face and grabbing his arm at lunch, and that he called one of them a "freaking idiot" and kicked him on the foot. She says that a "witness" says that they did not see other children bothering difficult child and that he just walked up to someone and called them that name and kicked them. I just wonder how all of this plays out...the person goes to the teacher after lunch and tells her that difficult child did this, she questions difficult child, then does she stand in front of the class and ask for a witness? IF so, how many kids are going to raise their hand? I would think more than just one, and if they see difficult child as the "trouble maker", would they be quick to jump on the band wagon? Every time there is an incident, it seems witnesses come forward and it just so happens that these kids are the ones who do not like difficult child. *sigh* I told difficult child to focus on what he could have said and not what the other kids were doing. I told him he could have raised his hand when the kids were bothering him and the teachers in the lunch room could have come over to find out what was going on. He said he did raise his hand, but they were all chatting and would not even look his way. part of me just wants to let this go, but i am afraid that if i do it will just open the door to more incidents. i am going to the school this morning to volunteer and wonder if i should say something to the teacher.