Last Thursday, difficult child came home with a science assignment (Find who/how penicillin was discovered and write a paragraph on it). On Monday, as we walked out the door, I asked difficult child if he was suppose to do his science. He forgot.
Thus starts the argument of whose responsibility it is for him to remember to do his homework. He hardly has any homework and our nights vary in schedule from night to night that we do not have a homework schedule set up. I told him it is his homework thus his responsibility. He argued that as mom, I am suppose to remind him to do it. I told him it is not my job to remember everything for everyone. I had totally forgot it myself.
We were not home Thursday night, Friday night, all day Saturday and he had a friend over Sunday after church. We went grocery shopping after we took the friend home. He told me Sunday night was out because I asked him to make cookies (Silly boy - just tell mom that homework comes first, I think she will understand). So, his available times: Saturday night, Sunday afternoon if he didn't invite friend over, and Sunday night. Yep, enough time.
difficult child then decided it was no big deal. "I will only loose one dollar" (pretend money earned and lost in school - he has to pay for undone homework assignments). That started another argument while I tried to get him to understand that homework is a large part of your grade. "Nope, it will just cost me one dollar."
By the time we arrived at school, I was very angry. We walked into the school and I said, "Fine, should I just tell your teacher that you are not going to do homework for the rest of the year and we will see how that effects your grades?"
"Mom, parents are not suppose to tear down their kids like that!" I just replied, "Kids are suppose to do their homework without parent's reminding them."
I talked to his teacher later and told her what had happened. She said she has raised the price of not doing homework to $2.00 and when she told difficult child that will be $2, he just replied, "I will have it done by tomorrow."
So, money does talk to my difficult child as long as we find the right price! and like all kids, difficult child knows the parent's role but can not accept the child's role in life.
p.s. He came home that night, went straight to the internet and had his assignment done in no time with no input from me.
Thus starts the argument of whose responsibility it is for him to remember to do his homework. He hardly has any homework and our nights vary in schedule from night to night that we do not have a homework schedule set up. I told him it is his homework thus his responsibility. He argued that as mom, I am suppose to remind him to do it. I told him it is not my job to remember everything for everyone. I had totally forgot it myself.
We were not home Thursday night, Friday night, all day Saturday and he had a friend over Sunday after church. We went grocery shopping after we took the friend home. He told me Sunday night was out because I asked him to make cookies (Silly boy - just tell mom that homework comes first, I think she will understand). So, his available times: Saturday night, Sunday afternoon if he didn't invite friend over, and Sunday night. Yep, enough time.
difficult child then decided it was no big deal. "I will only loose one dollar" (pretend money earned and lost in school - he has to pay for undone homework assignments). That started another argument while I tried to get him to understand that homework is a large part of your grade. "Nope, it will just cost me one dollar."
By the time we arrived at school, I was very angry. We walked into the school and I said, "Fine, should I just tell your teacher that you are not going to do homework for the rest of the year and we will see how that effects your grades?"
"Mom, parents are not suppose to tear down their kids like that!" I just replied, "Kids are suppose to do their homework without parent's reminding them."
I talked to his teacher later and told her what had happened. She said she has raised the price of not doing homework to $2.00 and when she told difficult child that will be $2, he just replied, "I will have it done by tomorrow."
So, money does talk to my difficult child as long as we find the right price! and like all kids, difficult child knows the parent's role but can not accept the child's role in life.
p.s. He came home that night, went straight to the internet and had his assignment done in no time with no input from me.