Update to "found odd stuff in son's room": after countless phone calls and emails, we have a plan for helping our son with his twin problems of anxiety and substance abuse, and the behavioral problems that go along with a dual diagnosis. Tomorrow our son's attorney will ask the judge to have our son taken into custody after his hearing and held overnight, possibly a bit longer, while we work to get him into a hospital/rehab/Residential Treatment Center (RTC) facility in Pennsylvania, about a 2 1/2 hr. ride from our home. My ex and I are going directly to the facility after court to tour it and meet with the admissions people and the therapist who heads the dual diagnosis therapy program. This is the place I had hoped we would get him into, our insurance supposedly covers it, and the only potential problem regarding getting him into it quickly is whether or not they will make us write a check for $10,000 that we don't have to get him admitted. This particular facility works with DCF and adjudicated youth, so they are familiar with situations such as ours. Please keep your fingers crossed that we are able to get him admitted quickly. Ideally he would spend no more than 24 hours in custody (so he doesnt' run from us) and would be transported directly to PA. At least once he is there, I will feel like I can exhale. He hasn't been to school since the Friday before Thanksgiving and as I type this, it's dinnertime and neither my ex nor I know where he is. He doesn't have his cell phone (wouldn't answer anyway, most likely), we've phoned all the friends we have numbers for, and no one knows where he is. I can't take too much more of this, and his dad sounds like he's ready for the big one any minute now. I can't even wrap my mind around what the scene is going to be like when they take him from us after court. He has no idea this is coming, but if he does he will run. My skinny, sensitive little boy with asthma in jail. Can't comprehend it. It's going to be a long, hard night tonight. But at least once he is placed we can begin the work we should have done long ago. I'm comforted by the fact that he will be in a hospital setting at first and not camping in the snow without his shoes or forced to sit in a corner because he spoke at the wrong time. Thanks everyone for your comments and advice on my last post.