So I had difficult child's 2nd wrap around meeting today. I also saw my therapist, and that gave me some time to think. My therapist asked me what I thought of the county. I thought for a minute, and said not much yet but that I have not given them much of a chance. I have made sure all the meetings were at county mental health. I hate the thought of having people over here, the house is such a cluttered mess, the walls are filthy, there is plaster missing off of the corners, holes in the doors, etc. I decided that I have to get over it. The mentor guy for both kids comes here on Monday. We may get someone to come to the house to help with a chore chart and implentation of such. I have to buck up and get over it. My poor kiddos are suffering and there is no doubt I am overworked. I also quit smoking, as difficult child would not quit stealing my smokes, so if he cannot smoke neither can I! So back to the wrap meeting. I ended up going alone, as I did not realize he had field work today (his school has field work once a week or more). It actually worked out better. We were able to talk much more candidly, and I was very impressed with his therapist. She kept at the case manager trying to get me respite..........she did not have any luck........but she tried. Case manager wanted to have difficult child go to some groups the county is having on bullying, but I have already signed him up for another social skills group as this time they are billing insurance. therapist backed me up on that too, saying he really really needed the social skills group. She did all this very tactfully, but I realized she was doing it so it really made me feel good because even though I know she is on our side? It was good to see it. I also told both of them if I caught difficult child smoking or with a pipe again I would be calling police. I have told difficult child this several times too. I have caught him enough times, if he does it again? I have given him enough chances. I heard no complaints regarding this plan. therapist also mentioned that she thought difficult child might be doing drugs and all that stuff as he had such a need to identify with his dad. YUCK YUCK YUCK YUCK but unfortunately probably true. So to those of you who have had to let all these people into your house, how did you deal with it? I am intensely private at home, will not even answer the phone some of the time. It is my safe place.