I started this thread in the general forum and was told it would be better to use this forum. Bottom line: my 43 year old son has been dependent on me forever. He lives in CO and I live in MD. I got him a phone so he could stay in touch but he "lost" it for the umpteenth time. I finally took away the credit card I'd given him when he started racking up thousands of dollars on it. That was about a year and a half ago and he has been all but homeless since. I kept sending him $ through friends but was no longer paying his rent. He called last week to ask for $ and I told him no. It hurt and I am so worried about him. He called again today, desperate. When his friend arrives in Nov. all will be well he says but until then he needs a little cash. I again refused. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. This group helped me when I first posted. I am again reaching out. I know this is the right thing to do. It just helps when others agree.