tiredmommy
Well-Known Member
(((Momof5)))
Let me tell you a little about a dear friend of mine. Her son was in the same class with Duckie from grades 1 through 3. She and her current husband met on a couples cruise a while back. They were not a couple... my friend was there with her then husband and her present husband was there with a girlfriend. They got drunk and had a torrid affair... resulting in the conception of her 4th child and the end of her marriage.
Fast forward to two years ago last Halloween. She found out that her new husband was having an affair with her best friend. Her boyfriend had a son the same age as R's youngest son (pre-k) and even had R watching the boy while she was with R's husband. R was devastated. I was among the first to know because, frankly, she had just found out and she was beside herself. She didn't know what to do and had four kids that would be impacted by her decision.
She wanted advice so I told her this: she had to decide if she could live with the knowledge that he was capable of risking two of her marriages for sex. And that it was her decision alone, not anyone else's and no one else's opinion really matters. She had to figure out if there was enough left to salvage and, if not, she should put herself in the best financial place she could for the sake of the kids. And she didn't have to decide right away.
They are still married and appear to be happy (I really hope so). I probably would have kicked my husband out.
(((Hugs))) Take your time and decide what's best for you and the kids. Only you can figure that out.
Let me tell you a little about a dear friend of mine. Her son was in the same class with Duckie from grades 1 through 3. She and her current husband met on a couples cruise a while back. They were not a couple... my friend was there with her then husband and her present husband was there with a girlfriend. They got drunk and had a torrid affair... resulting in the conception of her 4th child and the end of her marriage.
Fast forward to two years ago last Halloween. She found out that her new husband was having an affair with her best friend. Her boyfriend had a son the same age as R's youngest son (pre-k) and even had R watching the boy while she was with R's husband. R was devastated. I was among the first to know because, frankly, she had just found out and she was beside herself. She didn't know what to do and had four kids that would be impacted by her decision.
She wanted advice so I told her this: she had to decide if she could live with the knowledge that he was capable of risking two of her marriages for sex. And that it was her decision alone, not anyone else's and no one else's opinion really matters. She had to figure out if there was enough left to salvage and, if not, she should put herself in the best financial place she could for the sake of the kids. And she didn't have to decide right away.
They are still married and appear to be happy (I really hope so). I probably would have kicked my husband out.
(((Hugs))) Take your time and decide what's best for you and the kids. Only you can figure that out.