Contact with daughter has been brief and sporadic, as I am done with the "I only call when I want something" and "I will speak any way I choose to you when I do" attitude. However, after a brief period of NC, the last few conversations have been good, almost pleasant even. Positives... 1. She went to court for her drug charges. She was given a fine with a payment based on her income and court ordered drug counseling. 2. She finally went back for a much needed doctor visit and has made some decisions on her surgery; she says she has scheduled her followups and scans. 3. Her SSI has come through and she will get a good sized back payment and then her monthly check, giving her enough to get her own place. Pauses... 1. If she doesn't make her payments, which is possible, they will put a warrant out for her. They didn't put her on probation, which I wanted so that she would be randomly drug tested. (sigh) 2. Her surgeries and rehab is going to be so expensive. She refused rehab just a few months ago bc she was "done" and wanted her life back. Money is going to be an issue and I could see her just getting overwhelmed and not dealing with it. 3. She is terrible with money. I could see her doing something really stupid with it, or even spending it on drugs, and continuing to mooch off of people and surf couches where she can. In short, I want to be optimistic and feel positive for her but I am so cautious and so many things make me stop and pause. I have had my hopes dashed too many times, I have thought she "has turned the corner" more times than I can count. And she lies like breathing so who knows how much is true, partially true, or outright BS? So I have decided to take the good and hold it at a distance. She at least sounds fine, seems to be taking care of things, and is able to speak to me with respect instead of demands and rudeness. I am going to just enjoy this (more than likely temporary) respite from her usual chaos without getting my hopes up or placing unrealistic expectations on her.