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How is everybody else's weekend going? !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
difficult child Weekend 1-2-3 February 2008
- Arrival Friday night very anxious rude no patience grabs his brother (6-year old) by the wrists and tells him to leave him alone (yelling). We ask what is wrong did he have good week with mother, did he have argument with mother, or a bad time at school etc what is wrong he says only LEAVE ME ALONE.
- Rude, anxious at dinner. I make his favourite meal. Watches TV afterwards with his father, brother and sister. We get him into better humour. Goes to bed OK.
- Saturday morning very quiet. Takes medication. Goes to his brothers hockey. Spends entire time talking to me about all of the stuff he is planning to buy himself (with what $$$) ex. super special blade for his hockey stick, wave board, all kinds of $$$ stuff. Very unrealistic.
- Refuses to have his own hockey stuff washed for Sat night game (talking back and argumentative again); I do not argue let him play with last weeks dirty stuff! Plays hockey outside all afternoon at the park with his father, his friend and his brother while I visit the horses with his sister. Invites his friend to dinner without asking me. I have loud conversation with him about respect for stepmother (that's me) and discuss washing of hockey stuff again tell him to GET ORGANIZED. Friend stays for dinner and goes to his hockey game. Friend very nice/quite but a lot younger. Team loses 9-2. difficult child yells at or is rude to his father all the way home from game where is his sister, why does she get to sleep at her friends house, why cant his friend sleep over then (all this at about 10:30 p.m. with no plans made beforehand his father says not tonight we are not organized). Refuses to accept decision, refuses to take hockey bag out of truck at home; it is left there all night. Refuses to speak in the house; takes shower and goes to bed after slamming his door LOUDLY.
- Sunday morning; rude, abusive, talking back, inciting his little brother to disobey father and me (you dont have to listen to them); little brother screaming at us mini tantrum. This is not first time and we are definitely noticing a pattern of aggressive behaviour that is beginning with little brother now. difficult child seems to think he gets power this way he definitely enjoys the stress he is causing his father and me no doubt about it. I ask what was the problem last night is this how he repays his father for doing everything he wants all weekend and not doing what he does not want to do? Only answer is YEAH RIGHT over and over again. Ask him to call his mother; does not respond. Disappears downstairs.
- Cant find mini hockey sticks and ball he needs to return to his friend today. I cant remember where I put them last night but pretty sure I left them in a tupperware basket downstairs family room hockey game got TOO ROUGH. Promise to look later if he will calm down. He's talking to himself, repeating conversations to himself that did not take place. Very strange behaviour. Not the first time I notice this (the talking).
- Does not take medication this morning. (I do not insist). The medication does not stop his aggressive and disobedient behaviour anyway.
- Refuses to call mother to see when she will be home (we would like to take him back to her place earlier today he visits us every weekend). Refuses to have reasonable conversation. Yelling and/or talking back.
- Refuses to do any of his chores (posted on fridge) all weekend. After reminding, attempts to empty dishwasher Saturday morning before his brothers hockey; after 20 min I take over so we will not all be late getting to arena.
- DIFFICULT WEEKEND MORE DIFFICULT THAN THE AVERAGE WEEKEND. As far as we know difficult child had a good week in school last week and so was rewarded by getting to spend time with his mother on Thursday night - her agreement is that if he is not good, she does not spend time with him(!).
- 11:40 friend arrives to pick up his mini hockey game I find it exactly where I told difficult child I left it in the green basket. He wants to go out with friend I say no not after last nights behaviour and his behaviour all weekend. Say he needs to apologize he says what will that do you will STILL KEEP ME LOCKED UP (?). He says he doesnt have to listen to or obey me but his friend leaves anyway. difficult child returns downstairs again (starts having conversations with himself again). He is having a slow meltdown and I know if I go downstairs to tell him to stop throwing the tennis ball around the family room he will have a crisis. I am alone in the house right now and not prepared to do that.
- 11:55 finally settles down watching TV downstairs. But starts talking to himself again.
Sorry.. just needed to get that out. Constantly walking on eggshells with white gloves up to THERE. I haven't posted recently - been too busy in school meetings and/or work. This house is in a complete uproar.
Have a good rest of the weekend, everybody.
difficult child - 15.5 years old diag. ADHD, CD - living with his bio mother for past 19 mos -
difficult child Weekend 1-2-3 February 2008
- Arrival Friday night very anxious rude no patience grabs his brother (6-year old) by the wrists and tells him to leave him alone (yelling). We ask what is wrong did he have good week with mother, did he have argument with mother, or a bad time at school etc what is wrong he says only LEAVE ME ALONE.
- Rude, anxious at dinner. I make his favourite meal. Watches TV afterwards with his father, brother and sister. We get him into better humour. Goes to bed OK.
- Saturday morning very quiet. Takes medication. Goes to his brothers hockey. Spends entire time talking to me about all of the stuff he is planning to buy himself (with what $$$) ex. super special blade for his hockey stick, wave board, all kinds of $$$ stuff. Very unrealistic.
- Refuses to have his own hockey stuff washed for Sat night game (talking back and argumentative again); I do not argue let him play with last weeks dirty stuff! Plays hockey outside all afternoon at the park with his father, his friend and his brother while I visit the horses with his sister. Invites his friend to dinner without asking me. I have loud conversation with him about respect for stepmother (that's me) and discuss washing of hockey stuff again tell him to GET ORGANIZED. Friend stays for dinner and goes to his hockey game. Friend very nice/quite but a lot younger. Team loses 9-2. difficult child yells at or is rude to his father all the way home from game where is his sister, why does she get to sleep at her friends house, why cant his friend sleep over then (all this at about 10:30 p.m. with no plans made beforehand his father says not tonight we are not organized). Refuses to accept decision, refuses to take hockey bag out of truck at home; it is left there all night. Refuses to speak in the house; takes shower and goes to bed after slamming his door LOUDLY.
- Sunday morning; rude, abusive, talking back, inciting his little brother to disobey father and me (you dont have to listen to them); little brother screaming at us mini tantrum. This is not first time and we are definitely noticing a pattern of aggressive behaviour that is beginning with little brother now. difficult child seems to think he gets power this way he definitely enjoys the stress he is causing his father and me no doubt about it. I ask what was the problem last night is this how he repays his father for doing everything he wants all weekend and not doing what he does not want to do? Only answer is YEAH RIGHT over and over again. Ask him to call his mother; does not respond. Disappears downstairs.
- Cant find mini hockey sticks and ball he needs to return to his friend today. I cant remember where I put them last night but pretty sure I left them in a tupperware basket downstairs family room hockey game got TOO ROUGH. Promise to look later if he will calm down. He's talking to himself, repeating conversations to himself that did not take place. Very strange behaviour. Not the first time I notice this (the talking).
- Does not take medication this morning. (I do not insist). The medication does not stop his aggressive and disobedient behaviour anyway.
- Refuses to call mother to see when she will be home (we would like to take him back to her place earlier today he visits us every weekend). Refuses to have reasonable conversation. Yelling and/or talking back.
- Refuses to do any of his chores (posted on fridge) all weekend. After reminding, attempts to empty dishwasher Saturday morning before his brothers hockey; after 20 min I take over so we will not all be late getting to arena.
- DIFFICULT WEEKEND MORE DIFFICULT THAN THE AVERAGE WEEKEND. As far as we know difficult child had a good week in school last week and so was rewarded by getting to spend time with his mother on Thursday night - her agreement is that if he is not good, she does not spend time with him(!).
- 11:40 friend arrives to pick up his mini hockey game I find it exactly where I told difficult child I left it in the green basket. He wants to go out with friend I say no not after last nights behaviour and his behaviour all weekend. Say he needs to apologize he says what will that do you will STILL KEEP ME LOCKED UP (?). He says he doesnt have to listen to or obey me but his friend leaves anyway. difficult child returns downstairs again (starts having conversations with himself again). He is having a slow meltdown and I know if I go downstairs to tell him to stop throwing the tennis ball around the family room he will have a crisis. I am alone in the house right now and not prepared to do that.
- 11:55 finally settles down watching TV downstairs. But starts talking to himself again.
Sorry.. just needed to get that out. Constantly walking on eggshells with white gloves up to THERE. I haven't posted recently - been too busy in school meetings and/or work. This house is in a complete uproar.
Have a good rest of the weekend, everybody.
difficult child - 15.5 years old diag. ADHD, CD - living with his bio mother for past 19 mos -