I was told when I tried to get an advocate through my county that they only advocate for kids who were not being advocated for, and that "I" was advocating already for my child, that was frustrating. Then I found out about the Family Support Orginization, each County in NJ has one, it is an NP orginazation composed of parents of special needs kids who have "been there, done that". You should see if there'a similar orginization in your area.