another resource for us---this says it all


one day at a time
The following poem is posted on another Website/blog that is another good resource for parents like us. It was started by a mom whose daughter is a drug addict. The url is This poem by Mary Oliver is on the site. I think it sums up what we must do to reclaim our lives. We can only manage our own lives. We can only control ourselves. In the end, we can only save ourselves from the horror of addiction, a family disease.

The Journey
One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad advice--
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
"Mend my life!"
each voice cried.
But you didn't stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.
It was already late enough,
and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do--
determined to save
the only life you could save.
– Mary Oliver