I posted a month or more ago about my daughter. She is adopted from India. She is currently 15 years old, and we adopted her when she was almost 8. She has had lots of issues, has been on medications and in Special Education under the label of Severely Emotionally Disturbed for five years. In December, we found out that she was molesting the next door neighbor girl who is 8 years old. We called CPS but the law was never contacted (as far as we know). We quickly got her into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that our insurance has paid for (minus the $6000 out of pocket copay) but insurance will not cover forever.
In treatment, they have done a lot of testing. They have found out that she is having partial complex seizures in both the limbic regions as well as frontal lobe of her brain. They upped her Depakote significantly as well as added amantadine just recently. She is basically having many of the same issues in treatment as she does at home (lack of respect for boundaries, seeking attention at all costs, purposely wetting the bed, extreme impulsivity) which has been somewhat confirming for us.
We just found out this past week that her most recent IQ testing came out as a 68. In the past she has been in the low 70's. Both the doctor and therapist were thrilled because they seemed to think that this would qualify her for more services. The current Residential Treatment Center (RTC) thinks she needs to be in long term treatment. She doesn't really understand why what she did was wrong, has not shown any real remorse nor any ability to really process what she has done. She can parrot back what others have told her, but she is not able to process things on her own. Both the therapist and doctor have said that they have been frustrated by her inability to really benefit from therapy and that the 68 IQ does seem to explain some things. She is very good at faking things, learns the lingo but isn't really generating her own thoughts. She talks all the time about starting over but on a daily basis, is not making good choices.
So...in Texas they have something called a CRCG (Community Resource Connection Group). It is an interagency group that is supposed to offer resources and financial support for difficult children. There will be reps. from MHMR, Juvenile Justice, CPS...there..We are on the docket for tomorrow. My husband has spoken to the chairperson three times already. The feeling he gets is that they push keeping kids in the community and that they are questioning the 68 IQ (asking for other documentation). We have a paper trail that shows all of our attempts over the last seven and a half years to get her community based support that have failed. We feel like what she needs is 24/7 supervision (including during the night since she has been known to get up and do things after we go to sleep). We have a 13 year old in the house and even though she has not hurt him, we plan to bring that possible danger up.
At this point, she is especially still very hostile towards me, not only not accepting correction from me but not interested in doing anything together. We just don't see how bringing her home will meet anyone's needs. Any advice for what to stress/not stress at the meeting? We have compiled a list of several facilities that we think would meet her needs. We don't really have any further resources to contribute. We have an older son who is graduating high school and want to send him to college. Any suggestions, wisdom???
In treatment, they have done a lot of testing. They have found out that she is having partial complex seizures in both the limbic regions as well as frontal lobe of her brain. They upped her Depakote significantly as well as added amantadine just recently. She is basically having many of the same issues in treatment as she does at home (lack of respect for boundaries, seeking attention at all costs, purposely wetting the bed, extreme impulsivity) which has been somewhat confirming for us.
We just found out this past week that her most recent IQ testing came out as a 68. In the past she has been in the low 70's. Both the doctor and therapist were thrilled because they seemed to think that this would qualify her for more services. The current Residential Treatment Center (RTC) thinks she needs to be in long term treatment. She doesn't really understand why what she did was wrong, has not shown any real remorse nor any ability to really process what she has done. She can parrot back what others have told her, but she is not able to process things on her own. Both the therapist and doctor have said that they have been frustrated by her inability to really benefit from therapy and that the 68 IQ does seem to explain some things. She is very good at faking things, learns the lingo but isn't really generating her own thoughts. She talks all the time about starting over but on a daily basis, is not making good choices.
So...in Texas they have something called a CRCG (Community Resource Connection Group). It is an interagency group that is supposed to offer resources and financial support for difficult children. There will be reps. from MHMR, Juvenile Justice, CPS...there..We are on the docket for tomorrow. My husband has spoken to the chairperson three times already. The feeling he gets is that they push keeping kids in the community and that they are questioning the 68 IQ (asking for other documentation). We have a paper trail that shows all of our attempts over the last seven and a half years to get her community based support that have failed. We feel like what she needs is 24/7 supervision (including during the night since she has been known to get up and do things after we go to sleep). We have a 13 year old in the house and even though she has not hurt him, we plan to bring that possible danger up.
At this point, she is especially still very hostile towards me, not only not accepting correction from me but not interested in doing anything together. We just don't see how bringing her home will meet anyone's needs. Any advice for what to stress/not stress at the meeting? We have compiled a list of several facilities that we think would meet her needs. We don't really have any further resources to contribute. We have an older son who is graduating high school and want to send him to college. Any suggestions, wisdom???