My daughter expressed A LOT of anger toward her birthmother today. I was floored because I met her birthmother and I like her and have always spoke well of her. N. would like to meet her right away, although she professes to be mad at her. Ugh. I can't find her. It wouldn't really be so hard to go that extra mile and look her up, but I think that at age 12 it's NOT a good time. I'm thinking 18. And a part of me is sad that she wants to search. I'm afraid I'll lose my baby. I know that's dumb, but her birthmother doesn't live THAT far away, is younger than me, and is really a nice person. I'm afraid my kid will stop wanting to be MY kid. She calls her birthmother "my REAL REAL mom." I told her that she's too young for me to search with her, and she seemed upset, but didn't say anything. Thoughts?