My 11 year old was doing so good. Yesterday she attacked me and left about 20 bruises and welts all over my chest. She had been doing good and earned some money for chores and not cursing. Sunday was the day that she was able to spend her earnings. She wanted to go to the Game place to pick out a couple of used games to get more for her money. I had a terrible migraine that I had been trying to get rid of all morning, nothing was working. I told her that in 1/2 hour I would take her, I still had the migraine but I took her anyway. When we got home, I told her you can have two hours and at 3:30 we have to have our chores for Sunday completed. 2 Chores, cleaning the puppy's crate and changing 2 kitty litters. We take it easy on Sunday. Anyway at 3:00 I gave her a reminder that 3:30 was approaching and that we would be getting those two chores done between 3:30 and 4:00 pm. 3:30 came and she began the I have a headache and I am sick to my stomach, I have diarrhea. I told her, that I hoped she felt better soon, and that after she got the chores done, maybe she should just go lay down and take a nap. She put in another game. I removed it from the Wii and she attacked me. I have always been prepared for the attack or braced for it. Yesterday however, I did not expect it and she caught me off guard. She began to throw things at me and screaming and carrying on. She ran towards me and grabbed me in my chest (ouch) and she just got a hold of me and I could not get her grip loose. We ended up wrestling on the floor and I finally got control but the damage had been done. My lip is swollen, I have a small cut near my eye and at least 20 bruises and bloody spots on my chest. After a few hours she came and put this note on my bed. "I am sorry that I beat you up". It had a few sheets of these red hearts drawn all over it.
I reluctantly called my boyfriend. I was a little afraid of what his reaction would be, but I needed someone anyway so I called him. He came over and I was a little worried about his temper. Not for her, but for him. I didn't want him having issues with the police or anything. He is a very sweet good natured man. He has not ever hurt me or my kids. My difficult child has pushed him too far. We love each other very much and have been together for 8 years. We could not live together any more because of her issues and behaviors. My 17 year old also moved out a year ago, because of her sister's **** everyday. She stays with friends. I didn't want her to go thru it anymore. My pets are now having issues with her. I want a different life. I complain about my house not being clean, well my boyfriend walked me thru the house and my eyes were opened. The mess in the house is from her. She is totally just trashing everything and leaving stuff everywhere. I have been closing my eyes to it because she has been doing better (ha). I have been paying her for not cursing and giving her minimal chores and paying her for those too. The house is a wreck and the **** that's all around is hers and her messes. I have been keeping the peace and have been paying her for doing things that she should be doing anyway. I am sick and tired of this and really am ready for her to get out. My bosses wife just came in and took a look at me and was like wow what happened? She doesn't even see the bruises and bloody marks. I know what I want to do. I want my other daughter to come home and I want my boyfriend to be able to come back home. He has been out of the house 3 years. I am rambling, I just don't know what to do. I so want her out of the house. What I would really like for her is to act like a decent person and not cause so much drama. I don't really know what to do, I sit at work ready to break down because my 11 year old has beaten on me. How pathetic does that sound???? I am supposed to meet the Director of our Children's Hospital today to start the process of getting a support group started. I look a mess and feel like a mess. It is something we desperately need and something that I want, however today it so not the day to meet the Director feeling and looking this way. I am sorry everyone, friends are just sick of hearing about all of this and they would call the police if they saw me right now. Don't know what to do with myself today.
Jody
I reluctantly called my boyfriend. I was a little afraid of what his reaction would be, but I needed someone anyway so I called him. He came over and I was a little worried about his temper. Not for her, but for him. I didn't want him having issues with the police or anything. He is a very sweet good natured man. He has not ever hurt me or my kids. My difficult child has pushed him too far. We love each other very much and have been together for 8 years. We could not live together any more because of her issues and behaviors. My 17 year old also moved out a year ago, because of her sister's **** everyday. She stays with friends. I didn't want her to go thru it anymore. My pets are now having issues with her. I want a different life. I complain about my house not being clean, well my boyfriend walked me thru the house and my eyes were opened. The mess in the house is from her. She is totally just trashing everything and leaving stuff everywhere. I have been closing my eyes to it because she has been doing better (ha). I have been paying her for not cursing and giving her minimal chores and paying her for those too. The house is a wreck and the **** that's all around is hers and her messes. I have been keeping the peace and have been paying her for doing things that she should be doing anyway. I am sick and tired of this and really am ready for her to get out. My bosses wife just came in and took a look at me and was like wow what happened? She doesn't even see the bruises and bloody marks. I know what I want to do. I want my other daughter to come home and I want my boyfriend to be able to come back home. He has been out of the house 3 years. I am rambling, I just don't know what to do. I so want her out of the house. What I would really like for her is to act like a decent person and not cause so much drama. I don't really know what to do, I sit at work ready to break down because my 11 year old has beaten on me. How pathetic does that sound???? I am supposed to meet the Director of our Children's Hospital today to start the process of getting a support group started. I look a mess and feel like a mess. It is something we desperately need and something that I want, however today it so not the day to meet the Director feeling and looking this way. I am sorry everyone, friends are just sick of hearing about all of this and they would call the police if they saw me right now. Don't know what to do with myself today.
Jody