Ok....so last night for the first time my son verbalized his emotions regarding his adoption..... It was so painfull for me to watch! He said that he felt he was stolen and cried about how unfair it is that his bioparents loved him so much to make an adoption plan but that he just wants to meet them... the biodad got married in the mean time and stays in the same town as we do.....very nice person, biomom moved to another country....but they both signed a contract that they prefer semi open, more closed adoption...... I really dont know how to tell him he cant meet them....I sensed his terrible sadness and build up anger regarding this and was even wondering if this wasnt part of the underlying problem causing so much anger inside of him that causes him to lash out at us and also his self hatred and depressive moods? I got hold of a councellor who specializes in adoption and Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) with kids using trauma counselling and playtherapy.....she said she will call me back on Monday.....do you think this is a good road to choose?