klmno
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I still battle those choices or thoughts, DF. At one point PO ordered another type (supposedly) of in-home therapist. This one didn't even have time to get to our house before difficult child pulled the knife on me, however, I did research on their approach. Keeping in mind that no matter what they say to get the parent to "buy into" the method, it's all about parenting better to get the kid to behave better. But this one place used the method of inducing stress and chaos in the home "until the family found a better, more effective solution". TG I didn't have to go thru that! I have plenty enough trial and error fires to put out without someone coming over to induce them. All it really tells me is that they don't have the answer either. If they did, they would be spitting it out- not going about some approach that forces me to come up with another idea. I have no more ideas about how to help my kid get turned around.
As far as whether or not you and husband should play this out or call it quits, you guys just need to weigh what you think she really needs, which option gives the best chance for that, and if you can stand this or not. I'm sorry I can't offer something more positive and helpful. I will say that Department of Juvenile Justice doesn't seem to be doing anything except making my son worse and leaving me with even less influence on my son. Whether or not that leaves him seeing that these are his choices and he's digging himself in deeper even when he thinks blowing up at someone is getting back at them or me remains to be seen- so far he doesn't seem to be getting that point.
If I had it to do over again- I would have never involved people if I didn't have to- they have less answers than my mommy-gut.
As far as whether or not you and husband should play this out or call it quits, you guys just need to weigh what you think she really needs, which option gives the best chance for that, and if you can stand this or not. I'm sorry I can't offer something more positive and helpful. I will say that Department of Juvenile Justice doesn't seem to be doing anything except making my son worse and leaving me with even less influence on my son. Whether or not that leaves him seeing that these are his choices and he's digging himself in deeper even when he thinks blowing up at someone is getting back at them or me remains to be seen- so far he doesn't seem to be getting that point.
If I had it to do over again- I would have never involved people if I didn't have to- they have less answers than my mommy-gut.