For those of you that don't know my story - my difficult child is working recovery and back at his boarding school after a 2 month hiatus to attend an IOP program. When he finished IOP, he was so proud, so moved by the people he met there and ready to finish out the year successfully. While in IOP, it was clear that others in the program had used much harder drugs than he and experienced much worse consequences, but he talked about needing to take care of his situation now before he becomes them. He has been in and out of school and trouble for the past year. He comes home every weekend and lately, I feel worry coming back. He talkes about not wanting to do treatment anymore "it's not like I'm an addict", wants to stop taking anti-depressants "they don't do anything anyway" and his demands at home are becoming overwhelming again. I'm worried. It's not that he is doing anything now, but more that he is separating himself from the work that he has done to get to this point. It's a familiar pattern, we have seen this attitude before - and it usually ends inrelapse. I say all of this knowing that there is nothing I can do about it except know where my boundaries are and make a plan with husband about what to do if there is another next time. Is a 16 year old that has struggled with pot bound to treatment indefinately or is it reasonable for him to feel he doesn't need help anymore? He will finish his current program as he is requried to in order to be at the school he is at. But, his and our plan is to return home in May and stay here for school next year. We do feel that we HAVE to give him a chance to return. If he really is better, he can finish high school here, but if the nightmare returns, we will not have him stay here. I need to remind myself that it's one day at a time. I can't worry about what happens when he comes home, we just have to see how it goes.