I have been told over and over again to choose my battles. But with difficult child 2, it is getting difficult to know which ones I should choose. Battle #1 - Winter coat. I can't even get him to wear a coat to school. He says he doesn't like the coat because he doesn't like to wear it in school and he refuses to take the coat off. I told him that tomorrow we will put a coat on to get to school and take it off when we reach the lobby. I will put it in his backpack with his gloves. I know he won't put it back on to come home, but at least he will have it on in the morning. I really hope they have indoor recess today. Did I find the right solution? Battle #2 - Seeing Miss M (his social worker) alone. I am already stressing out about tomorrow night. I am supposed to go meet with M alone. The point will be to discuss a strategy plan. I am stressing about how to get out of the house without him. He hates to stay with Daddy and loves to go to M's house. Should I tell a lie and avoid any explosion? Or tell the truth and just walk out and let Daddy deal with the explosion? I know Daddy cannot handle it and difficult child 2 will scream and cry the entire time I am gone. How do I know what is the right thing to do?