HeadlightsMom
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difficult child arrested this morning at 1:30 a.m. Fa la la la la....la la la la....
Christmas News :/
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BusynMember
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I'm sorry. I was the "laugh" icon. It's not funny, but the way you put it was.
I'm sorry about it, really. They have such wonderful timing, don't they?
I'm sorry about it, really. They have such wonderful timing, don't they?
Scent of Cedar *
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Ouch. That explains why you were up so early then. It was the right thing to post to us here, Headlights Mom. We have been there, too. You are not alone, and there is strength in that.
We are all right here, and we will get one another through whatever comes next for each of us in a way that leaves all of us stronger and more centered.
I'm so sorry. It's the juxtaposition of the thing. Everything gets all clangy when things go wrong at Christmastime. It seems like you just cannot get away from it. The Christmas carols all seem poignant, especially the ones you love.
Are you going to visit?
Cedar
P.S. It was pretty funny the way you posted fa-la-la-la-la.
Aint that the truth.
We are all right here, and we will get one another through whatever comes next for each of us in a way that leaves all of us stronger and more centered.
I'm so sorry. It's the juxtaposition of the thing. Everything gets all clangy when things go wrong at Christmastime. It seems like you just cannot get away from it. The Christmas carols all seem poignant, especially the ones you love.
Are you going to visit?
Cedar
P.S. It was pretty funny the way you posted fa-la-la-la-la.
Aint that the truth.
SeekingStrength
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Headlights,
I'm here for you, as well. Thinking about you. Yes, most of us have been where you are today.
I am so sorry. Hugs! It will not always be as crummy as it feels today.
I'm here for you, as well. Thinking about you. Yes, most of us have been where you are today.
I am so sorry. Hugs! It will not always be as crummy as it feels today.
Childofmine
one day at a time
Headlights hang in there. I hope you were able to get some joy out of the day regardless. I am sorry it happened and that it happened on Christmas. We are here with you. Tomorrow is another day. Warm hugs.
SeekingStrength
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And, ours called on a Fathers Day on one incarceration. Happenstance -----with all these folks chiming in?
Heck, our difficult child was messing up so often, some were statistically certain to hit some special dates.
Sigh.
Heck, our difficult child was messing up so often, some were statistically certain to hit some special dates.
Sigh.
Oh boy, I'm sorry HLM. A prayer for you and for difficult child ...........sending a hug too.......let us know how you are.......
HeadlightsMom
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Everyone --- Thanks so much for your kind words....much appreciated. Multiple felony counts on top of broken probation, so we are told it will likely be a long time....perhaps years. Mind-numbing news at first. But the more we thought about it, the more it seemed less awful. Sad and tragic, yes. But, in other ways, perhaps the best that could happen given circumstances. May save difficult child's and others' lives.
And, ironically, we realized something else.... If we knew where difficult child was (caged), our lives could be very calm for a very long time. It's not what any parent ideally wants. But it's been a special kind of hell at times (I know you can all relate), so, honestly, we'll take that calm year if it's offered. Enough.
Cedar -- You asked if we would visit. Short answer..... I don't know. Longer answer....in our state the inmate choose who they WILL visit with (like they add them to a list), not who they WON'T visit with. Last time difficult child was in jail (last May, just for 1 month), we were not on that list. Matter of fact, difficult child listed no one and saw no one. Short answer revisited.......... I don't know. If he asked right now, today, we'd say, "No." If he asks tomorrow? I dunno....
Yesterday morning sucked the wad with the "news". But yesterday afternoon and evening we had a great time with my brother and his family (large fam). Last night we went and saw the movie "Unbroken". Eye opener........my life looks pretty cushy comparatively. While I generally discourage "comparison" these days, in this case I don't. Although our parenting experience has felt a bit like a POW Camp at times, seeing Louie Zamperini's POW Camp time dramatized made me very thankful for the physical freedom I have.
So, my gratitude this morning is that, despite the crap around difficult child, we the parents are free. Hope that makes sense.
This morning we watched a little "Christmas Vacation" (gotta love those Griswolds!) and we're taking a little road trip today. We're just gonna point the car south and see where it takes us!
I do so love husband!
PS --- Glad you all loved the "Fa la la la la.....la la la la"...........It made me laugh repeatedly when I really needed it!
And, ironically, we realized something else.... If we knew where difficult child was (caged), our lives could be very calm for a very long time. It's not what any parent ideally wants. But it's been a special kind of hell at times (I know you can all relate), so, honestly, we'll take that calm year if it's offered. Enough.
Cedar -- You asked if we would visit. Short answer..... I don't know. Longer answer....in our state the inmate choose who they WILL visit with (like they add them to a list), not who they WON'T visit with. Last time difficult child was in jail (last May, just for 1 month), we were not on that list. Matter of fact, difficult child listed no one and saw no one. Short answer revisited.......... I don't know. If he asked right now, today, we'd say, "No." If he asks tomorrow? I dunno....
Yesterday morning sucked the wad with the "news". But yesterday afternoon and evening we had a great time with my brother and his family (large fam). Last night we went and saw the movie "Unbroken". Eye opener........my life looks pretty cushy comparatively. While I generally discourage "comparison" these days, in this case I don't. Although our parenting experience has felt a bit like a POW Camp at times, seeing Louie Zamperini's POW Camp time dramatized made me very thankful for the physical freedom I have.
So, my gratitude this morning is that, despite the crap around difficult child, we the parents are free. Hope that makes sense.
This morning we watched a little "Christmas Vacation" (gotta love those Griswolds!) and we're taking a little road trip today. We're just gonna point the car south and see where it takes us!
I do so love husband!PS --- Glad you all loved the "Fa la la la la.....la la la la"...........It made me laugh repeatedly when I really needed it!
S
Signorina
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I am always amazed at and humbled by the resilience of the CD moms. Merry Christmas Headlights Mom and everyone else!
Scent of Cedar *
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You are standing so well! Laughter is the key to changing our endorphins around and getting them out here where they can do us some good. I am happy for you that you are able to laugh and to remember gratitude in the middle of something so dark.
This is how we stay sane in the face of the horror.
I agree about the safely caged part.
Driving away ~ just that simple act of driving away, changes all things. I love it that you and husband are doing that.
:O)
Cedar
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This is how we stay sane in the face of the horror.
I agree about the safely caged part.
Driving away ~ just that simple act of driving away, changes all things. I love it that you and husband are doing that.
:O)
Cedar
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I'm sorry you had that happen but I do admire your sense of humor.
Hang in there!!!
((HUGS)) to you.
I can so relate to this. My difficult child has been in and out of jail numerous times and when he was locked up for 2 full years it was 2 years that I didn't have to wonder "what's going to happen next"
Hang in there!!!
((HUGS)) to you.
Albatross
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HLM, it is good to hear from you. I totally understand what you are saying, about this being sad and tragic but also some respite for you, a time of no high drama and wondering where/how he is.
Christmas sounds really nice. Road trip sounds like the perfect topping!
I haven't seen Unbroken yet but did read the book. Am I remembering correctly that Louie Zamperini was a bit of a difficult child himself?
Christmas sounds really nice. Road trip sounds like the perfect topping!
I haven't seen Unbroken yet but did read the book. Am I remembering correctly that Louie Zamperini was a bit of a difficult child himself?
