Court, fight, visit

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by Helpless29, May 19, 2019.

  1. Helpless29

    Helpless29 Member

    Mother’s Day visit with my son was great, he was so happy.Me, his sister from college, and his 2 little brothers went. We laughed talked & enjoyed the moment. He’s been doing so good , been on level 4 highest level for great behavior. But today I found out he got jumped in there, some boys jumped him as he sat & watched Tv not sure of all the details because he couldn’t tell me over phone because he feared other boys would hear him. MY heart dropped , he says his face is pretty bad & they really got him bad :( I cried & so many images ran through my mind. Wednesday is his court date, I pray he gets out after this setback. In my heart I feel he has changed .
     
  2. RN0441

    RN0441 100% better than I was but not at 100% yet

    Did you call the manager or whomever runs the place to find out the details? I sure would have!!
     
  3. Helpless29

    Helpless29 Member

     
  4. Helpless29

    Helpless29 Member

    Waiting on call from his caseworker
     
  5. Copabanana

    Copabanana Well-Known Member

    When you speak to the case manager I would ask what she/he believes motivated the attack? Is this gang related? Is it racial? Does your son owe a debt? Is his behavior in any way out of line? Was there a dispute with a certain individual?

    There have to be reasons this has happened. And the reasons are important to determine next steps. Attacks like this don't come out of nowhere. They have reasons.

    Finally, that case manager is responsible for making decisions to keep your son safe if there is continuing risk. I would interrogate this person to try to evaluate yourself, JUST WHAT IS GOING ON.

    Does your son require protective custody?

    If the person does not give you answers that are sufficient for you to understand and do your own risk assessment, I would go up the chain of command. I am only familiar with prisons but there the chain of command is like the military. If you can't determine who is this person's boss (assuming you are not satisfied with what they say or do) I might go to the top, in prison that would be the warden, if you still feel there is inaction. After that, in prison, would be to go to the Department of Corrections in the State Capitol. Believe me. This kind of thing works. Family members do it all of the time.

    I want to add one more thing. I realize you believe your son has changed, and I'm sure you're right. But incarceration is not real life. Once released freedom and temptations and the status quo and peer influences have great power. Prepare yourself for the possibility of backsliding. Al Anon helps people to deal with situations over which they have no control. Or any 12 step group.

    Take care.
     
  6. RN0441

    RN0441 100% better than I was but not at 100% yet

    And sometimes our boys lie.

    Mine had once said a black guy had jumped him and took his money so he left his program - in Florida a few years ago.

    It was not true.

    I'm not saying that your son made it up though.

    Let us know what happens.