I have a 19 year old daughter who, until the last year, has been the ideal child (respectful, trustworthy, etc.). She began dating a boy at the end of her freshman year of college. He is the first person she ever dated. Her father and I were concerned they were too serious too fast, but thought it would wouldn't last. In the first four months he proved to be controlling, manipulative, and demanding. He made her choose between him and one of her friends as to which relationship she would keep. We also learned he cheated on her on multiple occasions. By the time we were finding all this out, we learned about other aspects of their relationship that our daughter was keeping from us, specifically that they were engaged. A week after we found this out (she didn't tell us she was engaged, we found out on social media) they broke up because she discovered he was cheating again. When she confronted him, he told her he didn't love her anymore and wanted to break up. After a few months, she told us they were talking again. She told us he had been going through some "things" and they were just talking, but she wasn't ready to take him back. She never told me exactly what he was going through, but a girl made "acquisitions" against him that were serious enough his parents asked him to move out of their home and get his act together. We expressed our concern and she seemed to accept that. A month later, we were beginning to learn (through social media) that their relationship was more serious than she was telling us. The day after Christmas, she asked very late in the day if she could go visit him. We told her no. Later that night, because she didn't come see him, he told her he was going to commit suicide. After a complete emotional breakdown by my daughter and lots of phone calls, he admitted to my husband over the phone he wasn't really going to harm himself, he just wanted her to come over. We then learn the relationship is still in tact and they are engaged again. The fall semester is over and after lots of discussion, my daughter is moving back home and will not be attending school that is near this boy. We are not forbidding them from seeing each other, but we are not allowing her to go visit him. We have explained to her that this "come see me" behavior is not acceptable and not the way a girl should be treated. If he wants a relationship with her, he should put in the effort to come see her (he didn't even pick her up for dates when she lived close to him). There are so many other things that have occurred, but this post is getting too long. In the 8 weeks since the suicide threat, he has only come to see her twice. My daughter will not talk to us about their relationship and I have no idea what the real status of their relationship is. I know there is no magic bullet here and I don't know what I expect from this forum. Maybe just to hear others understand and that my husband and I are not overreacting to the situation.