We went to see my son in detox last night. The first day he was in there (Wednesday) he called and hung up on me when I spoke of getting sober, cleaning up his act and I did not take calls from him the rest of the day. Yesterday he asked me to visit and not exactly happy when he knows dad is coming because he knows dad tells him like it is. I did ask my husband to leave his anger at the door because it does no good but he did tell our son how much damage and money he costs when he goes into his addiction rants and that he is NOT coming home and has to go to rehab or we will evict. My son is not very responsive to what HE has done. Has excuse for everything. He agreed to go to rehab (no other choice). He was in a very expensive rehab (me being naive) when he was 15 and spent his 16th birthday there (how sad), mainly for pot and drinking. Then again at age 17 and now he's 20 and here we go again. So he gets it, he knows the effects on the brain from drugs and everything else he has been taught. He is well educated on all of it. He has spent a lot of time sober in between but when he is sober he doesn't really "do" anything. When he gets a job he relapses and most recently when he started college (2 classes and one is on line so low stress) he relapsed again worse than ever and now with pills which are scary. I don't get it. He has anxiety and depression but it's like he can't function in the world or something. I don't know how much he will get out of rehab this time if he is only going because he is being forced. I also think that sober living will be a good thing since he needs to learn life skills that for some reason he doesn't have and I don't know why. He doesn't really seem to want to work unless he makes a lot of money but DUH you have to start someplace. I'm thinking sober living will help him to feel more independent but again, not sure because I don't know anything about it. Does anyone have any insight on this? He really wants to be in college but like I told him last night, that was what set him off on this latest horrible binge and he seems to completely lose control.