I just received an email from difficult child 1's foods teacher saying she is failing her class. My daughter absolutely loves that class. She wants to eventually become a chef when she gets older. She can't wait to come home every day and share with me what she has been cooking in her foods class. According to the teacher, she is unable to take notes in her class. She has an aide that comes in and helps her everyday, but difficult child is still struggling. She has always had a really hard time processing what is being said and being able to translate what is said on to paper. That is why we have it in her IEP that she is to be helped with note taking. Her teacher is not very understanding of this. She emailed me and basically said that she thinks it's a waste of difficult child's time to even be there. She claims that her aide is doing most of the work in the class for her (cooking excluded) so she isn't gaining any real knowledge from the class. She also told me that difficult child is at a much, much lower level than a high school student. difficult child 1 has always been a little bit behind her age group (she is reading at a seventh grade level while being in the ninth grade) but saying she is much much lower than the average high school student to me is pushing it. Yes, she may be a little immature for her age, but up until now she has always done pretty well in her Special Education classes. She has always needed a little extra help, but never to the extent that this cooking teacher is making it out to be. Now I'm all upset. This teacher has me thinking difficult child will never make it out there in the real world eventually. If she can't process what is being said in a simple cooking class, how is she ever to get to the point where she goes to culinary school? How is she going to survive? Right now she's in all Special Education classes except for this foods class. Most of her classes are self contained with about seven students per class with one teacher plus two aides. Her foods class has about thirty kids and difficult child just isn't making it. Even with somebody else's help she is struggling. How is she supposed to hold down a job in the future, without any help from outside sources? difficult child 2 is doing so well this year. He maybe autistic but he is very high functioning. I have no worries about him being able to make it in the real world eventually. difficult child 1 isn't doing so well. My hopes for her to be a functioning person in society are slowly diminishing. I guess I just need to accept the fact that she might never be all that I had hoped for her. That makes me really sad.