So. CPS investigation still ongoing. Not sure what is going to come of this, but my gut says nothing. I'm trying really hard to not stress about it because it is what it is and I mean, we've really only just begun this train ride, right? My son. Lord help me there are many strides he has made personally since baby was born. He's SO GOOD with his baby- he really is. He's taken to childcare really well, and is really REALLY good with the baby. That's a plus. Currently, he keeps him at night while she works. On the down side- he's not working. He did enroll himself into GED classes and started last monday. That's great. I'm going to get stuck paying his car payment this week (which I really do NOT have the income to do)- because it's in my daughter's name and comes directly out of her bank account- I'm not going to let her suffer for his ignorance. Payment is biweekly and will be paid off in 5 more payments. January 8th. We can make it somehow I just know it. Anyway, so yesterday his sister was riding his (he's staying with her right now) - and he got frustrated. Texted me that he was leaving there because he wasn't about to 'listen to this #$%^'. Well, so I made him madder because I agreed with her and told him the truth: 1. You actually CAN and SHOULD go both to school (9-2) *AND* work. People do it EVERY SINGLE DAY. 2. No one, not me- not his sister- is under ANY obligation to support you. Period. YOU ARE A GROWN ADULT. YOU HAVE BEEN AN ADULT FOR ALMOST FIVE FREAKING YEARS! 3. He attempted to BLAME ME for not being willing to take a fast food job, because he says I used to talk down on people with those jobs (LIE- and I did not allow him to continue down that path- what I used to tell both of my kids- if you don't do the RIGHT thing, get your education and DO well- you will end up being 50 years old dropping fries at McDonalds with no retirement plan, no benefits, and working HARD for no money)....it is outrageous the actual tactics he will take to make excuses for not doing something. Furthermore, since when has he listened to me? And at this point- he has a son- he shouldn't even CARE what I say at this point- he should do whatever he has to do. Period. 4. YOU have made a BABY that requires CARE. You (my son) used to LOVE to come back on ME when (pre-baby) I told him I was NEVER too good for ANY job when I had my daughter- that I worked plenty of horrible jobs- to which he USED to reply "but you had to, you had a kid"- well guess what Einstein, now YOU have a kid. You aren't too good for ANY job. I had gotten good at NOT engaging in these conversations, but it had to be said! I keep trying to impress upon him that HE MUST BE THE MAN HE WANTS HIS SON TO BE. /sigh. One thing I *have* definitely stuck to is this: he will NOT live with me again. No way am I ever going to put myself in situation where he steals from me, or takes advantage of my kindness. Never again. He knows it too. I just don't get it. I don't. I don't get anyone who believes that the world owes them something. I have naively believed all these years that I was setting a good example for what adulthood was- you work, you take care of your business. You don't do drugs. You don't steal. You may be broke, but as long as your bills are paid, you are good. May have to struggle- but you know, struggles have value too. This boy? My daughter and I discussed this last night- he is DETERMINED to learn EVERY SINGLE LESSON THE HARD WAY. If it weren't for my grandbaby, I'd do what I did last august and wash my hands of this madness. But I can't. There's an innocent 3 month old with two bat-$hit crazy parents. Someone in his life has to be stable and involved. Ugh.