hi
i'm not sure what to do difficult child doens't want to go to dad's anymore every other weekend. older one already doesn't go and little difficult child hates it when she doesn't. yet this has been teh way for about 2 mos. now
so last night she was crying alot talking about him picking her up tonight very anxiety ridden about it talking about how at the park dad has to always use hte bathroom and she has to stand outside alone, same with movies or anywhere they go. that his wife is never there and it makes her feel like she purposely disappears when she comes over because she doen'st like her which is try by the way.
his wife's a horror show.
so i'm not sure what to do. him and i are battling again pretty bad right now so ofcourse he views this as manipulation on mypart although it is not i have never said a bad word about him infront of kids i wouldn't do that. ihad difficult child call him last night when she couldn't sleep to explain to him how she feels this is hard fo rher. he just kept shutting her down saying i'Tourette's Syndrome ok we'll have a great time and not really listening to her and what she was saying.
so do i send her another weekend with her hysterical crying as she walks out door to get into car with him?? what do i do? whats the right thing to do? how is she once she's there he pink and blues everything which is main reason we are battling yet again. i say ok she needs alot of help gut tells me she may be bi polar either way i have to treat the symptons at thsi point he is in strong denail she's fine even still, even now. it's insane and ridiculous.
so do i send her?? fiance adn i were talking about it last night. he said why cant' he just come out for day adn take her out for day and return her home?? i said because he won't he only sees what he thinks is right not what is right for her. he even threatened me with takign or fighting for custody yesterday because i've been interviewing therapists for her that deal with anxiety depression mood disorders and bi polar and he was screaming at me she doens't have bi polar i have medical proof right now. i said from where columbia?? she's severely depressed and anxiety ridden adn i paid for the evaluation, well fiance did at this point cause now i'm Occupational Therapist (OT) working. i said what is it you have????
ugh he makes me so so sick you have no idea he makes everything so much harder when it comes to her and helping her.
thanks any advice i'd be open to hearing it. i've never not sent her even through her tears i don't want them to lose their connection whatever it may be.
Jen
i'm not sure what to do difficult child doens't want to go to dad's anymore every other weekend. older one already doesn't go and little difficult child hates it when she doesn't. yet this has been teh way for about 2 mos. now
so last night she was crying alot talking about him picking her up tonight very anxiety ridden about it talking about how at the park dad has to always use hte bathroom and she has to stand outside alone, same with movies or anywhere they go. that his wife is never there and it makes her feel like she purposely disappears when she comes over because she doen'st like her which is try by the way.
his wife's a horror show.
so i'm not sure what to do. him and i are battling again pretty bad right now so ofcourse he views this as manipulation on mypart although it is not i have never said a bad word about him infront of kids i wouldn't do that. ihad difficult child call him last night when she couldn't sleep to explain to him how she feels this is hard fo rher. he just kept shutting her down saying i'Tourette's Syndrome ok we'll have a great time and not really listening to her and what she was saying.
so do i send her another weekend with her hysterical crying as she walks out door to get into car with him?? what do i do? whats the right thing to do? how is she once she's there he pink and blues everything which is main reason we are battling yet again. i say ok she needs alot of help gut tells me she may be bi polar either way i have to treat the symptons at thsi point he is in strong denail she's fine even still, even now. it's insane and ridiculous.
so do i send her?? fiance adn i were talking about it last night. he said why cant' he just come out for day adn take her out for day and return her home?? i said because he won't he only sees what he thinks is right not what is right for her. he even threatened me with takign or fighting for custody yesterday because i've been interviewing therapists for her that deal with anxiety depression mood disorders and bi polar and he was screaming at me she doens't have bi polar i have medical proof right now. i said from where columbia?? she's severely depressed and anxiety ridden adn i paid for the evaluation, well fiance did at this point cause now i'm Occupational Therapist (OT) working. i said what is it you have????
ugh he makes me so so sick you have no idea he makes everything so much harder when it comes to her and helping her.
thanks any advice i'd be open to hearing it. i've never not sent her even through her tears i don't want them to lose their connection whatever it may be.
Jen