husband said he would just be home long enough to see what he could get and then he would disappear again. Looks as though he was right. I don't really know what I will say to him when he shows back up. We discussed what was expected of him if he was to stay at home, he listened and agreed. So far, he has done a very small portion. When he showed up christmas eve I told him he had to live by the rules or find somewhere else to stay. he cleaned his room and stayed till breakfast christmas day. He is supposed to let me know by a 10pm if he will be home or not. No call last night That is all I asked him to do! He just doesn't care and I am to the point I don't want to deal with the show-up every 4-5 day thing. He will come in eat,shower, get clothes leave again. I think the only reason he is keeping touch at all is because of his courtdate the 20. You know mom is the most important thing in his life if he is in trouble.. Thanks for the vent! Just wondering how to handle him at this point. Any suggestions?