We had returned from a week at our family cottage to find that difficult child had been staying most nights with one of his friends (I'll call him "J") After not hearing from difficult child for a couple of days, he stops by in the morning to get his work uniform. He asks if it's o.k. if he goes to live with J and his family, if we would still be willing to help him pay for college. I tell him I would have to talk to husband, but that we have always planned on helping him pay for college if he maintains grades of a C or better, so I don't think it's a problem. I ask if J's parents are O.K. with this plan. He say's J's mom was just concerned that I wouldn't want him to move out -- I raise my eyebrow and even difficult child smiles at the irony of this! I ask if he has to pay rent. He says no, they just want him to do chores around the house. HELLO! Isn't this the same deal we have been offering him that is just way too demanding!!? I ask why he wants to live there instead and he responds that maybe if we are not together all the time, we can have nice, normal conversations like the one we are having now..... Now, I have no idea why J's parents would want him there - J is a high school senior and they also have a younger child - but they seem to be O.K. with it. They have a very beautiful big house and difficult child would have his own bedroom -- hey, do you think they may want to chip in for the college thing? Just a thought... Anyways, husband says it probably won't last and difficult child will want to come home soon, but he has been gone for about two weeks now and I can't tell you how nice it is to lock the deadbolts at night and not have to worry about when or if he is coming home or when or if he is going to work. To have a household where there is no drama and everyone justs does the things they are supposed to be doing. Being difficult child free is like taking an afternoon nap -- you feel a little guilty about it, but it feels so wonderful! It may not last, but I plan to enjoy it while it does!