difficult child, now age 15 and 6'2 has a very deep and commanding voice and towers over us. He carries himself as if he was superior to us. He once told me "obey is a word for slaves." I know I am supposed to ignore junk behavior but even asking him where he set his juice or if he is hungry prompts him to use that drill sargeant voice and yell NO! He tells me "Get out of my FACE" "You're annoying me" "Dummy" "Stupid" "I wish you weren't my mom" For awhile he was calling his father "BOY" and I thought flames were going to shoot out of my ears. Our response: 1-just take it and ignore it 2-say an assertive statement to stand up for ourselves "You're not going to talk to me like that" 3-Yell at him because he's done it so often that night we're on edge To me, it's verbal abuse and I feel victimized. I can't control what he says. He talks to his sister and his friends like this too but they take it different and joke with him. What should I do? Sometimes I handle it and sometimes I go on the deck and cry. Some nights I think we're in some sad theatre production that he is directing. He sets the stage and script and enjoys the drama. He is pleased because he is in control. The fact that our family is torn apart by this and he knows it doesn't matter. He went to a counselor who I really have faith in but now he refuses to go anymore. I go but he really needs to go. I try but he won't get in the car.