The only reason I know that she was drinking/using at all is because I looked at her emails, and that was only after a long time of not doing so and a lot of suspicions. Had I not done that I most likely would be continuing to help her, buy groceries, fix up her apt, etc. Now I realize every penny I spent on her was one more penny she coudl use to drink. So while it may not be the wisest thing to read her emails it was the only way I knew to put a halt to our involvement in her life. Also had I not checked this morning I would not know that she crashed the car and we need that info in case they try to come back on us since the title wasn't changed until yesterday afternoon and I haven't been able to cancel her current insurnace until tomorrow.
She is wise to me because she is now deleting her incoming and sent emails as soon as they come in or are sent. I just happened to catch the one about the crash because she was so wasted last night she didn't delete it. As soon as she gets internet she will no longer use email and I won't see anything anyway.
She called us today and asked me if she should get wireless internet or just internet. I told her I wasn't helping her do a thing and she would have to figure it out herself. Then she called back to ask husband for his credit card number so she could order it because they won't take a check. He told her he wasn't helping her anymore, that we have helped her more than we should have and there is no more help available.
I'm sure the first thing she will do tomorrow is go back to the bank and open up another master card.
She has $200 in her account and rent is $500 and utilities wil be coming due and she's ordering internet. And worse she just caused about $2,000 damage to her car and probably more to someone elses.
You know what really gets me? She is the best con artist I have ever seen. Up until I read those emails I htought she was doing well. Now I find out she's been lying since November. At Christmas I thought she was well on her way in recovery. I did not see this coming. She is an expert at fooling people.
Nancy