Well difficult child called me last night (actually 1:30 am) to tell me she didn't want to go with my brother and his family to Thanksgiving dinner that they are having at their good friends house. Yesterday, that's what she said she wanted to do, and now she changed her mind. I didn't argue, I said fine since she asked if she could come here. It's typical difficult child and it's maddening. She never knows what she wants and never sticks to her decisions. She panics right away. Even though my brother is a major difficult child, he is good to her. He gave difficult child her own room and everything. I just don't know what her problems is. Is it the kids, do they really bother her that much? If so, gtf over it. Is she panicking because she doesn't want to be separated from me? Well, too bad, your 18 YEARS OLD, it has to happen some time. Does she feel out of place there? I really don't know. I kind of wish I said no, but how can I tell her no for Thanksgiving? I wonder how my brother is going to feel about this, I'm sure he will not be happy about it at all. My difficult child is going to tell him that she feels bad for me being alone on Thanksgiving. Trust me, I am perfectly fine with being alone on Thanksgiving, it doesn't even feel like the holidays to me at all. Not even a little bit. That's what trauma and unrelenting stress does to you. (not just from difficult child, but just my whole life in general) You just want to be left the frig alone for a while. Just like how she feels, I myself don't want to be bothered. I now know what I have to do, after this day, if my brother doesn't throw her out for ditching them on Thanksgiving (which I think he just might), I am putting my foot down. No guilt tripping me, no flip flopping. This is what I meant. It was too early for her to leave. Even though a month goes by in a split second, in difficult child world, that's all they need, not even that much. I will probably try to talk her into going, I doubt it will work. She knew to call me in my deep sleep. I don't need responses. I just needed to vent. I hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Seriously, enjoy it. Love you all.