My difficult child is an expert rider of seesaw and has been in upswing uncharacteristically long time now. In fact after his half-arsed suicide attempt in January things have been going gradually better. He seems to be over of his old girlfriend and even has a new one. They seem to have some issues with overcoming the stereotypes and 'are you ashamed of me?'-type of issues, but those are age appropriate. After giving me silent treatment for couple months and being in very bad terms with his dad, things have calmed down also at home. It also helped that my own health scare has been dealt with, it really made husband and Joy very nervous and they had trouble understanding difficult child's attitude to it. husband and difficult child even have found something they are both happy about to do together now that difficult child has been home couple months. There has been these loosely husband's work related father-son golf meetings (a networking tool in reality) that husband had been dying to take a part to. But easy child really don't like golf and is too young to appreciate the networking opportunities. However difficult child's Mentor taught him to like golf, even though difficult child really doesn't care about networking opportunities and feels himself bit misplaced among the super achieving sons of others (or at least difficult child feels they are super achieving and he is an odd man out. difficult child, while understanding very well, what advantages being a pro athlete tends to get you in night club just before the closing time compared to other guys, haven't really grasped totally that what he does tends to get quite a lot of attention and even admiring also from other men. husband however has no trouble using that in bragging purposes. Well, they are doing something together that they both enjoy. It is a positive.) difficult child's work with his sport psychiatric seems to be paying of. His interpersonal relationship skills are really getting better and it is especially evident with his relationship with his friends and acquaintances. Especially his peer relationship skills have clearly improved, so has quality of his relationships with them. As a younger teen he really didn't have real friends, few years ago he started to form good relationships with smart and very socially skilled guys at least few years his senior while still having huge troubles with guys his own age. Now he has been hanging out with former team mates and other guys of his own age more than ever. Right now he and Joy are in fact in our summer cottage with friends for the weekend. All (except Joy who is still couple weeks short from 18) are between 18 and 23 and while there are more Joy's friends or their common friends than difficult child's friends, there are few that are in fact more his friends than Joy's. And oddly I'm only lightly worried about that bunch of boys, the amount of beer they have with them and large amount of open water right next to them. Of course anything can always happen, but most likely they will be just okay. However his job situation is worrying. There haven't been really good offers that would combine what he wants and what we (and his agent) wants. He wants lots of playing time, his agent wants him to have more a developmental position under very good coach even with less playing time, but difficult child is not inclined to be patient. We want him to have more stable situation (preferably at least two years in some good size city in the country he speaks the local language at and has several professional therapists experted to trauma centric/exposure CBT to choose from) so that he could really go back to working with his mental health issues (even though in upswing and stable with his medications, he really, really needs that.) Unfortunately difficult child puts his sport over his mental health needs and still seems to harbour a misconception that he can handle it. Even though he is far from dissociation and anxiety free even now that he is not stressed at all. He is totally ready to go on as a hired gun also next season even though that will likely make continuing his therapy impossible. And even though his agent is worried about his reputation and him learning to actually attached himself into the team. Being a hired gun is okay for older, established players. With someone in difficult child's age, it tends to be a red flag for commitment issues. And he is indeed developing some commitment issues that are not an attractive feature in young team athlete. He kind of is supposed to give a crap about his team and how they do, not just his own performance. He even went through the trouble of mediating process for one team (though process itself was very good for him, I think, may be an important step to help him heal), but their offer ended up being lousy compared to some others he has. He hasn't signed yet, but preferably he decides sooner this year than last. But it is of course his life and his career. Though I predict a steep down swing again in future if he doesn't really deal with issues under it all. In some ways he is a tough kid and has a will of steel and is able to admirably keep his nose above the water by will alone. But he really would need to get out from that water or at least learn to actually swim. And he needs therapy for that.