passed away Friday night. Nobody told him until yesterday. This is a girl who he hung out with. They were both skating on Friday night. While they were skating she passed away. She was fighting cancer last year. difficult child would hang out with her, go to her house. They would go to the mall. Talk online, text. I gave him a ride there several times. He asked one other girl why her mother was bald. The other girl said she had cancer. That was early last spring. From what is posted on myspace, her mother had a seizure Friday night which ended in her death. difficult child doesn't know what to do. They didn't hang around at all during the summer and seeing her at the skating rink was the first time since school he hung out with her. He is feeling real lost. I told him to post a message to her on Myspace, or txt. her. He is afraid to because he didn't see her all summer. He is feeling really sad for her. They all hug each other when they see each other, so I said just post a message saying "hugs". The last time someone that difficult child knew died he was 6. It was a neighbor man who difficult child loved. difficult child stopped eating. Said he would die if he ate. Six weeks with no food. Had all kinds of tests done. I am worried because he feels so sad right now and doesn't know what to do. husband's father died when he was difficult child's age. husband said what he remembers most is how many friends came. (ofcourse they did not have myspace, or text msging). husband has had friends, relatives pass away over the years. His way of dealing with it is...ignoring it. If you don't think about it then it goes away. (what he told me) How should I advise difficult child?? I do not want difficult child to deal with things that way.