Hi, I'm new to this website although I have been reading for a week now I thought it was time to share my story. My 18 year old difficult child has always been a high need child, took lots to keep him happy but he was our 1st born and we were so grateful to have him and still are but things are really bad right now. In January of this year he total lost his car, he wasn't hurt thank God but this is where his downward spiral began. When I went to the wreck he was crying said he never wanted to drive again by the time I got him home he wanted to know when he was getting another car. Really? To make a long story shorter by the end of the night the sheriff had to come after he wrecked the house and left, stumbled back in high as a kite and talked to the sheriff and went to bed. Before we even had to worry about getting him another car he broke his leg at a party, never got the real story. He missed his whole soccer season of his senior year, he was captain of the soccer team and could have cared less. Drugs became more and more prevalent in his life. Finally got him to see a psychiatrist, always had anger issues and an I don't give a crap attitude toward everything. They prescribed him Effexor for anxiety and seemed to be working had gone about 3 weeks with no arguments and even got a job. Then he stopped his medications said he was tired of kissing our buts . I went in one morning to this room to wake him up to go to work and the bottom fell out he cussed me out beat up his room and quit his job and left. That was a Wednesday on Saturday he come home to get more clothes and cussed me out and left. Sunday he called while we were at church and was crying and sorry and wanted to come home so he did. When we got home he got up and was so angry, he cussed us did about$2000 in damages to the house and left. On Tuesday he came home, we had set up counseling with his psychiatrist and he was ok with it until he woke up Wednesday morning went into a rage and left,I called sheriff and filed a Eco , they picked him up and took him to the hospital where the evaluator deemed him fine and released him. He is living with girlfriend and her family for now. I know this is crazy but I miss him so much this has broken my heart but I also have a 9 year old son I have to protect. Any advice would be appreciated. He has a scholarship for college and is throwing it all away. At the hospital he tested positive for weed and cocaine , but he was fine what a joke. My husband and I have set up counseling for us to figure out what to do next.